Women's Issues

Spotting after intimacy

Q: Whenever I have physical relations, then I get blood spotting with discharge for at least one day thereafter, but this is not haiz. Can I perform salah in that condition and without gusl can I involve again in physical relations?

Woman seeking employment outside the home

Q:

1. Under what conditions can a married woman seek employment outside the home?

2. If a woman does work, what rights does her husband have over how she spends her money? What rights does a wife have over how her husband spends his money?

3. Please confirm what are specific things that a man is required to spend on with regards to his wife that fulfills the decrees of Quraan, Sunnah, Shariah etc.

Reciting an amal during haidh

Q: A few weeks back my father met a Moulana, who gave him an amal to perform for solution to any problems.

Starting on a Thursday night either after Maghrib or Esha salaah, without communicating with anyone, one should recite the following 11 Durood before and after 70 X Surah Fatiha on Thursday and should be decreased by 10 each day thereafter. The amal should be repeated for 5 weeks without any breaks.

I would like to that during the period that a female experiences her menses, does she stop performing the amal during the time and restart on the first Thursday after she becomes paak or can she continue performing the amal.

Girls living in a hostel

Q: I am an engineering student and I am currently living in the hostel. All was going well till my roommate offered prayer. Her method of offering salah was different but I did not pay much attention to this because in college, I am friends with a shia girl whose method is also differed from mine. I do not discuss this with anyone but I was told by another hostelmate that she is a "aga kahani". This made me furious. After that day I stopped using her things but I never stopped sharing mine with her. Now the problem is that we hostelmates make tea together and she is also included in our group of friends. We do not want to make her feel miserable but I asked her not to make tea for me twice.

Now, the question is that how should I behave with her as we have to share one room and I have to live with her for a long period of time.

Also, we use to eat our lunch and dinner in the same plate, is this appropiate? 

Irregular haidh

Q: I’ve been having irregular periods ever since the first time I got it, 3 years ago. I get the brown spottings/discharge which I am told is considered as my period. Recently I got my period regularly for two months in a row. Till last month which I did not get it at all. I then got the spottings at the end of October and beginning of November and considered that my period. After those 10 days were over, I got my actual blood period 8 days later last Saturday.

My question is which one is considered my period? And do I not pray my salah for this period and make Qadha for all the missed ones last time or consider this as haiz and pray my Salah’s while I’m on my blood period right now? 

Women working

Q: I am an engineer. My salary is an amount that I can just afford to take care of my family. I will not really be saving anything. However, my wife is a dentist, she did not start her practice yet. She just passed her exam a month ago. I permit her to see female patients by opening a surgery. But she wants to be a BCS cadre. This is the highest prestigious govt. job in our country for practicing in a govt. hospital. That means, she is not only interested in the money but also social dignity. If she becomes a dentist in a govt. hospital, she will have to face males nurses and male patients also. If she can avoid male patients, she will still need to talk to other male doctors as well as her colleagues. She will also need to talk about some unnecessary aspects e.g. can she say to her colleague, hello Mr. X, how are you and your family? This is not directly related to her profession but she has to do this. Please note that she wears the purdah but she is very keen to do that job. I am not interested in her doing the job due to the reason I mentioned above, but she forces me again and again. If it is permissible then I will permit her and save my mental peace.