Women's Issues

Q: I have been given 1 talak and was told from the moulana that I must sit in iddat and after 3 cycles my nikaah will be broken. I want to know whether after the 2nd and 3rd talak do I still sit in iddat?

Q: We are living in a combined family system. my grandparents, parents, uncles, my brothers and my cousins in one big house. My mothers brothers visits us many times a week. I want to ask that to who and how should my wife make parda from these reletives " parday ka hukam kya ha ?"

Q: I am a married lady. I need to ask about sex in menstruation. I had normal seven day period in my life but since my child birth (3 months ago) I have had 2 periods; 2nd period was 8 days before due date on the completion of 7 days of menstruation I thought my periods are finished but I didnt take ghusl yet for purifying myself and I had slight spotting again on the 8th day morning. Thus furthur delayed ghusl and then had sex in the evening thinking that periods would definately be finished by now and I will take a bath after it. Then next day morning I had spotting again, only minor one which was shocking since I didnt take ghusl and my menstrual spotting lasts more than usaual 7 days this time. Have I really committed a haraam act? If yes then whats the expiation?

Q: I have heard that after the haidh is completed, a person may no longer sleep on the same bedsheets, even though the sheets are not messed. The sheets must be changed before making ghusl or if ghusl is taken and the sheets have not been changed, one may not sleep on the bed unless the sheet is removed. Also further this was applied to any scarves or burkas that one may have worn during the haidh for even a short period. Is this correct?

Q: My wife had an operation 3 weeks ago inside her womb and since that time she's bleeding like her periods. Is she still required to pray salaah or should she stop praying salaah untill the bleeding stops?

Q: I wanted to ask that my husband divorced me after my mother in law passed. I have a baby girl in this marriage. My sister in law and my husband took away whatever jewellery my mother in law gave me at my wedding. I have a two and a half year old baby girl. Please tell me if it is right in Islam to give something and take it back because at the time my mother in law gave me the jewellery she said it's yours. The jewellery was with me in my cupboard since the day I got married and when I went to take my belongings from my husbands house, they asked me to give me whatever gold jewellery my mother in law gave me because my husband said that if I don't give the gold jewellery, he will not give me a single rupee for my baby's expenses.

Q: I have a question regarding menstruation. I had post natal bleeding for 40 days. Thereafter I performed ghusl and resumed my prayers. 2 weeks later I began bleeding again. Is this bleeding regarded as my period? Should or should I not perform salaah?

Q: If a woman has been given 1 talaq and during her iddat she has some female problems and has a D&C (cleaning of the womb), will her iddat end after the D&C?

Q:

1. After reading several questions on your site regarding haidh, I learned that yellow discharge on the last days of haidh would be considered haidh. Before, I was completely unaware of this, and since the yellow discharge during the last days of haidh looks exactly like the discharge I get in normal days, I used to take a shower and start performing salaahs while having yellow discharge. So sometimes I would take a shower and start salaahs while experiencing this discharge, and when discharge would stop, I would keep performing salaah without taking a shower again. Do I have to repeat such saalahs?

2. Since performing salaah without wudhoo is kufr, and although I did perform wudhoo but failed to shower after yellow discharge, would my salaah fall under this kufr category?

3. Someone questioned how often we should check our discharge during the last days of haidh, since we want to know the exact time we are paak so we can start performing salaahs. In response to this, another person said that if during the last days of haidh, if someone has haidh in the morning, then she will be considered to have haidh the whole day. Is this true, or do we have to keep checking after every few hours?

4. During the last days of haidh, in the mornings there is no discharge at all, sometimes even for a few hours after waking up. My habit is that usually on the seventh day I am paak. This time, I checked at night on the seventh day, and I still had some discharge. I was afraid that I might get paak later at night and miss my Fajr saalah of the eighth day, so I set an alarm for about 3:40 AM. But since after sleeping I don't experience any discharge during the last days, at 3:40 AM when I checked I was clean, so I took a shower and prayed Isha and then later Fajr. Later that day I checked and I still had a faint colored discharge. This process continued the next day: In the morning after sleeping, I was clean, but later in the day I was not. In such cases during the last days of haidh, should I continue taking a shower in the morning and praying, despite knowing that after sleeping I see no discharge and later in the day I might?

Q: I would like to know my sister has just got her talaq so she is sitting in her iddat at her parents house. Are my parents allowed to get visitors if she is in her iddat at their house.