Questions relating to Tabligh

Q: Having been with Tabligh Jamaat for the last 20 years. I have seen a lot of benefits, I did 4 months, 40 days regularly and believed that this was the 73rd group that will go to Jannah. Since we had the split, I am at a standstill. After the split, I don't know if it's Shaytaan or my eyes has opened up. I have some questions to recalibrate myself to better understand our deen. I was an extremist jamaat saathi but after the split, I saw so many ghibaat and programs against each other. I said to myself that this is not what I learned from our elders. I learned to build one ummat and no critic. 'saab ko lekal challo'...

All my questions are related to talks and bayannat of Tabligh Jamaat in which I had full conviction. Now I feel a bit at a loss…

01. HIDAYAT HIDDEN IN QURBANI
Hidayaat is based on effort and qurbani. By effort & qurbani is meant the way
Tabligh teaches us effort & qurbani by ONLY going out in Allah’s path.

02. TODAYS QURBANI
What qurbani should we do as an individual of our time and how do you qualify
the qurbani asked by Tabligh Jamaat

03. WHAT RELATION WITH ABISINIA AND TODAY’S MASTURATE JAMAAT
Tabligh Jamaat use the wakiah of sahaba with wife going to abysinia as first masturate
jamaat to prove or promote ladies jamaat.. Is it ok

04. OUR RESPONSIBILITY TOWARDS THE DEEN
Tabligh Jamaat talks a lot about our responsibility regarding this deen as an individual.
Can you highlight our responsibilities as an ummat and a man of this era

05. MAKSAD THAT DEEN GOES TO THE LAST PERSON TILL KIYAMA
Tabligh Jamaat often says that our work/ maksad is to make the deen reach to the last
person before Kiyamat. As far as I know, before Kiyamat, only kafir will prevail on
earth as all muslim will die thru the blow of wind. How would you rate this saying

06. PROBLEMS ARE RELATED TO THE WORK OF DAWAAT
After dawaat stopped, problems come from Allah. An example is Moosa As going to the mount and down here gold cow was ready. Why this happens because dawaat stopped.
Your comment

07. WHAT IS THE MAKSAD OF THIS UMMAT & AN UMMATI
What is the ummat maksad and what the maksad or role of an ummati.

08. WOMAN AND THEIR RESPONSIBILITY TO DO DAWAAT
What is the responsibility of the women in Islam vis a vis the ummat. How can they achieve it?  If they want to go to jamaat alhamdulillah. But what about those ladies who don’t go in jamaat.

09. ALLAH’S HELP IS IN WORK OF TABLIGH OR DAWAAT
Allah’s help is attached to the work of Tabligh. As if Tabligh Jamaat has exclusivity on that.
Can you enlighten us on this?

10. TASKEEL & NIYAT
Tabligh Jamaat says make niyat and get the sawab. I know I won’t go but still make the
Niyat to get sawaab. It does not sound right. Please advise

11. DAWAAT AND AMAAL ISTEKAMAT
People leave amaal because they don’t give dawaat on the amaal. Give dawaat on a particular amaal will bring that amaal in your life. Example – give dawaat to read quran, you will read. Give dawaat for takbir Oula, you will get takbir oula. Can you comment on this

12. AMAAL ISTEKAMAAT NOT GUARANTEED WITOUT DAWAAT
Thus this makes me afraid of those people who come to masjid early and do their azkaar but don’t give dawaat. They may lose these amaals as they don’t do or give dawaat like Tabligh Jamaat. If I become one of them, I am not safe from erring from the right path. Tabligh Jamaat even said that even after 20 years, the man can leave the swalaat because he did not give dawaat. – Please comment

12. DO DAWAAT & GET 7 GENERATION GUARANTEED ON THE RIGHT PATH
Tabligh Jamaat says that if you do Tabligh Jamaat style dawat. Your 7 generation will be rightly guided. After 20 years I can see many old sathis children not making namaz… let alone the 7th, the very 1st generation itself is not on the right path. Can you comment, please

13. BADRI SAHABA X 3 DID NOT JOIN IN TABOOK JIHAAD
Tabligh Jamaat uses the wakiah of 3 sahaba that did not join the Tabook expedition. They were boycotted for almost 50 days and then Allah forgave them They were Badri and they were sanctioned… Now if we do not do dawaat tabligh, imagine what will happen to us. Can you enlighten us on the relation of this wakiah and Tabligh Jamaat.

I apologies for putting so many questions. Just for you to be in the context, I am from Mauritius.

Shaving the hair after umrah and hajj

Q:

1. Please share your views on how one should spend his days in Makkah/Madina, which is the best ibaadat (tawaf or multiple umrahs or nafl prayers)?

2. Does a pilgrim get same reward of shaving hair if he does Umrah or Haj? Or as Haj is a bigger pilgrimage, shaving hair in Haj has more reward?

3. If a person does Haj-e-tamattu and has plans to perform more than one umrah before Haj, should he shave his head on all times?

4. What if a person has very few hairs as he has done many umrahs before Haj, and uses the razor on Haj, do we get same reward?

5. Also, is this saying true that for every single hair there are many blessings, the more hair you remove the more blessings?

Removing a unibrow

Q: When removing unibrow, how far back can it be removed? Should it be removed just until it doesn’t cover the top of the nose or can it be removed till it’s at the top of the corner of the eyes?

Regret for speaking harshly to one's mother

Q: I am 21 years old. I love my mother but I spoke harshly to her today relating to my marriage issues and she cried. My father died when I was young and she alone raised me. I've hurt her today very badly. I've said sorry to her but I just can't get it out of my head that my mother cried because of me. Can you please tell me what should I pray to erase this mighty sin off my shoulders?