Talaaq

Q: My husband suffers from a serious mental illness. He has a bipolar disorder which means that he goes into both manic and depressive episodes. He was diagnosed by a psychiatrist in Decembwr 2018 and is on medication for it.

We have been married for 6 and a half years, and we have 3 young children together. Our marriage was very good alhamdullilah until about a year ago when signs of his illness began.

When he is manic, he has lots of rage, he has no impulse control and behaves in a way completely out of character. He says strange things and treats everyone very badly. He can hallucinate and become paranoid. His condition has been getting worse.

A few nights ago, we had a big fight because he was saying terrible things to me by text and I was very upset. All of a sudden he said he will divorce me, if not tonight then he will do it tomorrow. He has never said anything bout divorce before. I was so upset I drove straight to his parent's house where he was and I went to him and said 'you want to divorce me? then ok, do it'! At the time he was sitting with his brother who said that he was saying strange things to him before I arrived which did not make any sense and he had been trying to calm him down. His family pulled me from the room before he could respond to me, but he went into a rage and ran in the room to me and then he said talaq 3 times. He was highly agitated, screaming at everyone and swearing at me going crazy saying things he has never said before. He went crazy at all his family and continued to act manic and agitated. This was at his parent's home in front of his family. I left the house.

Since then, in the last few days his behaviour and psychosis got so much worse he was having delusions and going completely crazy to the point he was taken by police and has now been locked in a mental health facility. They found out that he had stopped taking his medication about a week ago because he believed it was killing him, and also that his medicine dosage has been massively insufficient so they immediately doubled it. He has now gone into a depressive state and is crying constantly and talking about self harm.

Now I need to know if our divorce is valid or not. He was very obviously not in his right mind when he said it, he was enraged, off his medication and having an extremely paychotic manic episode at the time. He also previously never expressed any desire for divorce, but if it was a valid divorce then I need to know.

Q: I was married and over a year ago I received my divorce through email, I was working overseas at the time. The email was this “I (his name and ID number) hereby give you a talaaq” he then got married and had a child to another woman and has divorced her... and now he is contacting me and telling me that he wants me back and that we are not divorced because we did not sign the papers, is this correct? Am I divorced or not divorced?

Q: After divorce, at which age can the children decide which parent they want to live with?

If the husband and wife agree for the wife to keep the children after the age of 6, will it be permissible?

Q: If a husband treats and abuses his wife, and does not give nafaqah to his wife and is disrespectful to her and her parents and family, and if he is on drugs, can her father have the right to make her leave the husband? Who must she listen to, her father or stay in her bad marriage?

Q: The problem is, that my sister and her mother in law had a raw, and as the result, her husband got furious at her mom and my sister and got agressive and dragged my sister out of their house and wanted her to leave. When things started getting worse my sister said, "OK, I will leave". Her husband, still furious,(yelling at her) (first wanted her to leave) then put condition, if my sister will leave, he will say (Talaaq).

But my sister left, and now, her husband is calm, and they both want to live together. They have 2 children together.

This is very irresponsible behaviour from his side, thats for sure, but please advice us, is their marriage still sound? Will the marriage be broken if someone out of anger say's something like that? 

Q:

1- Without having any knowledge of divorce by giving divorce or demanding for divorce can divorce take place? God is ever forgiving.  If we ask for forgivness, will he forgive us or he will still punish us for that which we were not aware of?

2- If two divorce were given by using word "divorce" two times just to get out of house in fight. Will those two divorce count?

3- Can Allah forgive woman in haiz if she makes some stupid decision or ask for divorce from husband and husband says divorce word two times without having intention to give her divorce and she stops him (it means she didn't mean it) will that still count as divorce?

4- In haiz, women go through a lot of sentimental and emotional mood swings. If she demands for divorce will that be considered?

5- There has to be intention of giving divorce or divorce just takes place anyways?

I have heard that God is always forgiving. Ask him for forgivness if you make any mistake. Without having intention or any knowledge, he's kind and he will forgive. He won't be unfair with anyone. Does divorce mistake not count in this?

Q: I was in a nikaah for 2 years but no rukhsati had taken place and I hadn't touched my husband. I took khula from him and my iddah has ended. I want to remarry the person again, is it permissible?

Q: I want to ask you a few questions before I make a decision about marrying a second wife. I am not satisfied with my marriage with my first wife. This is due to a lack of affection and neglect from my first wife. I have had this problem for 5 to 6 years now and I have tried to talk to my wife to resolve how I feel but nothing seems to better my situation, and I have now given up. I still care about my first wife and I still want to provide for her and our 3 children. I want to marry a second wife but I don't want to commit a sin. The UK law does not recognise a second wife. It is actually illegal in the UK to have a second wife, although it is fine to have a mistress. As I am aware that there is an Islamic ruling that I should abide by the law of the country that I reside in.

1. My question is, if I get permission from my first wife, and provided I fulfil both wives rights, will I be commiting a sin to have a second wife in the UK?

2. Does a divorce through the UK civil court break the Islamic nikah? (From my own research I have found that it does not break the Islamic nikah)

3. I have met a person from Morroco who has accepted to be my second wife, but to bring her to UK I have to first divorce my first wife through the UK civil court. Can I do this in order to bring my second wife into the UK? I do not want to break the nikah to my first wife. 

Q: I want to divorce my husband. The reason is not that strong but I have lost love towards him. Maybe small and minute issues that stay deep in my mind are responsible. My question is whether I can divorce my husband without any strong reason?

Q: I divorced my wife once but I took her back into my marriage. Thereafter she became pregnant. Then she asked me for a separation (khula'). After giving her khula', now we would like to get married again knowing that she is 6 months pregnant. What is the procedure to follow?