Talaaq

Q: After asking my husband for talaaq for the umpteenth time (because of consistent pathological lying, not giving any of my rights as a wife, not respecting me, tarnishing my reputation with his friends and mistresses, giving his first wife a comfortable life and not even giving me any of my expenses, mentally and financially abusing me, etc.) yesterday he finally said "Fine, take it (the talaaq)". Prior to that we didnt have any relationship for the last 8 months. Afterwards when I asked him to give me talaaq in front of my parents, he is saying he will give it when the time is right, and knowing him, he will always find excuses since he doesn't wish me to move on with my life and he wants to have full control over our son (though he hardly pays for the latter's expenses), that's the only reason he doesn't want to give me talaaq. I want to know if the talaaq he gave in the first instance is valid. 

Q: My sister married a boy who converted to Islam. Soon after the marriage he again converted to Hinduism. The boy left her and went away without giving her a talaaq. She had not informed her family about the marriage. Her parents got her married to someone else who gave her talaaq within 2 months of their marriage. The Hindu boy then suddenly called her and gave her a talaaq. Can she now get married to someone?

Q: If a man gave talaq to his wife and they reconcile during the iddah period, does the talaq fall away? I was told by one Moulana that if they reconcile during the iddah period, the talaq falls away. Its called extreme compassion from shariah.

Q:

1. If during an argument my wife says "Mje tmre sath nh rehna" and in reutrn I say "mje b tmre sath nh rehna" with no intention of talaq and just as a respond to her question will that be a talaq.

2. If during an argument I say "mje tmre sath nh rehna" with no intention of talaq will that be a talaq.

Q: A person was going to give his wife a divorce and the imam had prepared a divorce certificate from which he was supposed to read "I give my wife a talaq ba'in". However when he read it, he misprounced "ba'in" and instead said "I give my wife a talaq bayyin". Therefore the imam asked him to repeat the statement with proper pronunciation whereupon he properly said "I give my wife a talaq ba'in". Did one or two divorces take place?

Q: During an argument between me and my wife, I got very angry and said "Mein tumko talaq deta hu aur yeh tumhara pehla Talaq hai". Now I regret my mistake and want to take it back. I wanted to understand what is the process for the same. Also I have been reading that if the woman is menstruating, Talaq is not valid.

Q: Me and my husband has had many arguments for the past 2 years. And everytime he keeps saying "Tum meri taraf se farigh ho" - "Tum meri taraf se poori farigh ho" and at the same time he also keep saying "I dont want anything to do with you. Leave this house and do what ever you want to do and go where ever you want to." Sometimes he says sorry and sometimes we dont talk for weeks.

1. Does that mean that he divorced me completely? Am I still in his Nikah or not?

We had arguments again today where he said "Tum meri taraf se farigh ho" and I said if you dont want to keep me then tell me clearly that you are divorcing me. But then he tells me to write down myself that I want a divorce from him. Even though its him who keeps saying it. I never wrote it down on a paper. I dont want to get divorced.

2. What does Talaaq e bain mean? Im a bit confused about what it is.

3. And what is "Revocable Talaaq"? And "Irrevocable Talaaq"? And what is the difference between them?

Q: I was discussing with my wife and sister about talaq and what are the conditions of divorce or which words initiate divorce etc. At the end I was talking about a case in which a husband says talaq talaq talaq to his wife as joke or randomly, will talaq be issued in this case?

Q: Nowadays, there are many arguments about three talaaqs and halaalah. The problem is that most people do not have the correct understanding about three talaaqs and halaalah. Can you please enlighten us in this regard?

Q: I have been married for two years and have a baby on the way. For some reason I am remembering that one night, two weeks after getting newly married my husband and I went out for a romantic dinner. We were having a sweet and loving conversation that went like this:

Husband: I love you so much please don't ever leave my side

Wife: I love you so very much too. You are my world. I could never leave you, it would be too hard for me to do that. If anything, you could easily leave just by saying three words.

Husband: oh yeah talak chahiye talak chahiye talak chahiye. Wait no, talak dehta hoon talak dehta hoon talak dehta hoon.

Wife: yes those are the words. why did you say those words out loud?

Husband: I thought you were asking me if I knew the words so I just mentioned them.

Wife: did you say it to me as a funny joke?

Husband: no I was only mentioning the words because I thought you were asking me if I knew the three words.

We left the conversation at that. We believe that everything was okay. We even submitted this to an Islamic website and also spoke to an imam of our masjid. They both said that if he did not direct those words towards me in seriousness or in a joking divorce and only said those words as to mention the words by which divorce happens then the nikkah is fine and unharmed. He was only speaking in hypothetical terms by way of example.

 Please let us know what you think as well of the situation?