Talaaq

Issuing talaaq without the intention of divorcing one's wife

Q: I have a serious matter about a Talaq related question.

I am married and have kids.

I did a second nikah last year with a woman who has 4 kids. She has been manipulating and not been honest with me for last 1 year and continuously lies about so many things and on the top of that she has her EX husband living in the same house with her as she keeps saying he lives in a separate room.

I had enough of her lies so I have separated from her and my first wife asked me to divorce her so I have wrote an emal and told her that I'm divorcing her but it was not my intention and my wife pushed the email sent button.

Then my daughter told me to send her divorce otherwise they will not live with me so I wrote an email and send to the wrong email address because I have no intention to divorce her but my daughter had me corrected the email and send her again.

Couple of days later I called her and I told her I have been forced to give you divorce but this is not my intention and I also told her until I come and give.  I did go back to her and have relationship back with her again.

My wife find out that email divorce is not valid so she has forced me again to call her on the phone and divorce her so I did call her and divorce her 3 times by saying Talaq to her. Later I went back to her because and I told her that until I personally give you divorce I'm not divorcing her.

Now my question is, is my marriage still valid or its divorced. I am very confused. 

Eelaa (taking an oath to abstain from having any relations with one's wife)

Q: A man insisted his wife to go out of the country to work with him, and his wife did not want to go because of the environment in the western country, she was afraid that he would go there. In order not to deteriorate in this environment, her husband then told her that if she did not comply, he swore that he would not go near her for four months, and four months had passed, Does it lead to divorce?

Issuing three talaaqs without the knowledge of the implications and repercussions

Q: I grew up in a very harsh condition and wasn't very learned in most aspects of my Deen with Allah's grace I'm slowly getting there. Years ago in a rage of anger I issued my wife 3 talaqs without knowing the repercussions or the laws behind. I had no real Islamic knowledge of it and when my wife slapped me and told me what I did, I honestly didn't know what exactly it meant to say those words. As I was saying I grew up hearing my father telling my mother that and at that time of me saying I had no knowledge of it and we were in such a intense fight and argument. Now, after years my wife came to me and said that it stands as a divorce. Could you please guide me on this matter.

Divorcing one wife by saying her name but the another wife's name came to mind

Q: If a person has 2 wives and he, intending to divorce one says her name then explicit words of divorce like "Maryam I....(explicit words)" but at the time of sayings the words he has his other wife who he didn't want to divorce come to his mind.

Does it mean he accidentally gave divorce to the other wife (named Zainab) which he didn't intend to?

Writing out three talaaqs in the state of duress

Q: Mufti Saheb, I was forced by my family to divorce my wife by writing on a page and signing that I am giving her three talaaqs. My family threatened to beat me up if I did not comply. Hence, I was forced to write the following: “I, so and so, am giving my wife three talaaqs.” Are the three talaaqs which I wrote valid or is my wife still in my nikaah?  I did not verbally issue the three talaaqs.