Talaaq

Q: If a man says to his wife "I divorce you" three times as a joke and has no intention to divorce her and is unaware that simply uttering the words could lead to divorce. Is that counted as talaaq or is the nikkah valid. Also note that this occurred while the wife was in a state of purity, before menses, during which intercourse had taken place. Is this nikkah still valid? Is the talaaq valid? If yes is it counted as one or 3? This occurred between a couple that are very much involved and would be devastated by talaaq. And please advise what should be done after this.

Q: I am 22 years old - British citizen. I got married in Pakistan last year, but now seeking a divorce as the husband is horrible and abusuive towards me. I returned to England on December last year. I have no contact with husband whatsoever. I do not talk to him, I am now seeking divorce but he is refusing to give me one. I wanted to know that if I haven't had sexual contact with him for 8months is my marriage invalid? What if I Return my wedding gold to him does that make the marriage over? Or what if I say divorce 3times to him? As he lives in Pakistan what can I do? I've been struggling to find help.

Q: I would like clarify the following. Emotionally down I asked my husband not to keep me hanging, if he wants to let me go he must. He said fine go. His intention was divorce so accordingly we made nikaah again. To provoke my husband (Allah forgive me) I told my husband I want another husband. He asked do you want another husband. I said yes. His replied go get another husband. He says talaaq did not fall as his intention was not talaaq. Was this a talaaq? I am confused with regards to how the first fell and this did not? We have many arguments however we love each other a lot. But pressure gets the better of us and we say silly things. I have doubts that similar statements were uttered. He says none are valid as he did not intend divorce. What is the ruling? Request for duaas.

Q: My brother in-law audio messaged his wife a divorce. Is this divorce valid?

Q: If my wife was saying to me she hates my attributes etc complaining about me over the phone and I assumed she was cheating on me and I reply "okay then I will divorce you " or something like "I'll divorce you " metaphorically with no intention of on the spot divorce more like a future reference in a mental state. This happened 4 years ago when she was pregnant and it was more like "okay if that is how you really feel about me then I will divorce you so tell me the truth" . I can't truly recall what I said and have thought long and hard but can you kindly tell me if it is counted as one talaaq. I truly believe it is not. I have tried long and hard to think back but can't recall what I exactly said. I was not angry nor were we arguing, it was a general conversation but I was intoxicated and going crazy like mental depression cause of the drugs. I was also under the Influence of drugs once again and the words divorce you divorce you came out with no apparent intention and as I was intoxicated, it came out with no such meaning. I tried to prevent this but it slipped out. I was really insane and did not know what I was saying. Are these counted as talaqs also? She also said once to me over the phone to say the word 'divorce' knowing that I would not because I love her. I did not respond to her talaaq but replied that I have already said the word long ago. I was confirming the 'divorce you' talaq which I have just mentioned but was definitely not initiating another one. Again I cannot recall my exact wordings but clearly remember my intention of confirming the talaaq which was said in the form of 'divorce you' 4 years ago.

Q: I recall my husband once saying that he will divorce me or he is going to divorce me. I don't think he meant it there in a instant but as thinking about it and said in anger. I think I forced him to say it and he was intoxicated. Is this counted? I asked him and he said he had no intention and meant maybe in the future but he couldn't recall how he said it but remembers his intention. He also once said divorce on its own a few times but not to me .. just screamed it randomly. Is this counted?

Q: My husband divorced me through signing onto the divorce papers which is a predesigned template of country law in which it is written that ‘I give my wife three written divorces’ which is then followed by such statements: I__________ divorce my wife________________ I _____ divorce my wife__________ I __________ divorce my wife________ However, the paper that he signed was of mutual understanding divorce but the divorce was not given by my consensus, therefore keeping this in mind when we got the copy of papers we got that changed and the new papers were prepared where there is no statement as ‘ I give three written divorce to my wife’. Moreover, he also said that I have given one divorce to my wife, which is true. Since he stopped talking to me before divorce (despite of my struggles to contacting him, as my rukhsati didn’t take place so we were not living together nor we consummated our marriage), there was no assurance if he had signed the papers or his mother has done it since she was against our marriage the most even though it was an arranged marriage, so my family forced him to call me and say on call and he uttered ‘you are free from my side’ and ‘ you are divorced as papers are being signed’. I want to reconcile with this relation tell me how can I do that, my husband and I had no contact since divorce and he has blocked me from everywhere also I don’t have courage to approach to him myself. Please tell me what are the rulings of Islam in this case how many divorces has taken place three or one since marriage has not been consummated. Even if three divorces has taken place what will be ruling of halala,which I know is haram.

Q: My husband has said many times "I won't do this or that, if do it then you are divorced - talaq". He has said it many times and still he did what he said he won't do without thinking. Now, he has said that more then 5 times and did everything that he had swore on. Has the talaaq taken place? How can I
still stay with him if talaaq has taken place.

Q: I was going through an emotional state and I mentioned when I get married to my second wife, she is divorced thrice. As I divorced my first wife, I keep on getting these waswasah about divorce all the time. Example if I got a certain girl in my mind should I marry her or not, then I get so much off waswasah in my mind that is she the right one for me I don't want to make the same mistake twice it is as if I am scared to get married again and I'm divorcing girls that come to mind so I don't get married to them because I'm scared I'm really suffering with these waswasahs for months now it really weakening me mentally. Will all these divorces go through? If yes, what will I have to do if I I want to make a second nikaah because I'm desirous of getting married. What will be the way out? I feel I am blocked from all sides to progress in anything even I want to do something I feel so hard to do it as if something is pushing me down each time. I want to stand up. Please help me.

Q: My nikkah took place in august and it was decided that rukhsati will be done in December when the members of both families will gather up, as siblings from both the families were settled abroad. No specific date was fixed even though my mother asked my mother in law a couple of times after nikkah, but she kept on making different excuses. My husband and I used to talk on phone once a week and he was absolutely normal yet I could notice some annoyance in his tone after sometime.