Talaaq

Three talaaqs in anger

Q: My husband in an extreme anger pronounced three words talaq, talaq, talaq on the phone. When he cooled down he returned home he behaved normal and didn't even know what words he uttered. He was reminded by people who was surrounded by him at that time. But he didn't know. He said I don't know what I said and what I did. My question is that in that case if a man becomes insane and he doesn't know what is he doing, is divorce valid or not?

Halaala

Q: I am from South Africa. I am A Hanafi. I was married to a Hanafi girl from India. We were married for 3 years. We were happy living together since her dad came to live with us from India. He lived with us and I had my own flat. But my Marriage ended because the father interfered and jadoo was done. I out of anger gave her six talaaqs in one sitting in front of witnesses. After I gave the talaaq, I realized what I have done. I gave the girl R10 000 for her iddat concession. She went back to India to spend the iddat and her dad is still here in SA. I Spoke to her mother, aunty, cousin, brother and sister about getting back together. They all accept and the girl also is willing to get back together. So my my question to you is? Is Halaala allowed in Islam? And obviously planned halaala is haraam, but if the girl verbally tells the man she is marrying would that be accepted? My marriage was arranged and Allah blessed us with mohabbet. It is hard to forget her and I really do love her. I ask Allah every day to forgive me for the great sin that I have done by divorcing her. We do not have any kids. I really want to get back with her. Please give me a break down on what is allowed in Shari'ah and what is not allowed. Because I fear Allah and do not want to commit a sin or live for the rest of my life with sin.

Conditional divorce

Q: Is there any clear proof in Quran and Sunnah for conditional divorce and what to do if someone issued a conditional divorce in past. For example; if someone said to his wife that if you done before 33 years that work; etc then you will be divorced and if not then you are not?

Husband denying issuing three talaaqs

Q: My husband has divorced me many times in breaks of months in private only in fulll words two times and once ke tujhe talaaq pe talaaq. Third time he said ke jaa tujhe teesri talaq. But he didn't have any knowledge at that time that through uttering in such a way, talaaq happens and he had no intentions also. Now he is denying every talaaq and saying that I just gave once talaq and all muftis here in India are taking his side saying that aadmi ki gawai maani jayenge if I don't have any proof and witness. He is ready to take Quran oath and do Tajdeed-e-nikaah with me. What should I do as I am really confused because some are saying that he is still your husband and some are saying that your talaaq is valid and you take khula from him. What is the real Islamic way if the husband gives talaaq and later denies it by lying? If I go with him, will I be committing zina? Please help me. Is my talaaq valid? What should I do?

Suspending the talaaq

Q: Will the talaaq take place if my husband suspends the talaaq upon any action that he does. For example, he says "If I watch porn, then my wife is divorced". Then, in the future, if he does watch any porn, will the talaaq take place? Similarly, what is the Shar'ee ruling if my husband suspends the talaaq upon any action that I do? For example, he says "If you go to your friends house, you will be divorced". If I then at any time in the future go to my friends house, will the talaaq take place?

Three talaaqs via a text message

Q: I have been married for the past 18 months. My husband lost his job after the first month of marriage. I had a job so therefore I supported him and his family (mother, 2 sisters). His father lives in another state and visits monthly. During the course of our marriage, I got pregnant and had a baby girl. His 2 sisters got married. He had tried to work but ended his job at a store and driving a car due to him thinking that people were after him and something was going on at home. Recently, he started losing weight and was diagnosed with gallstones and gastritis. He was treated with surgery. At this point, I had started working part time to take care of my baby and husband. But we were short of rent money. My husband was very angry 2 weeks after the surgery due to pain and shortage of rent money that he told me to leave the home at 12:00 at night with my 11 month old daughter. His mother succumbed to his anger and told me to take a taxi to my parents home. I refused and stayed because it was night. The next day, as he drove me to my parents home, he told me he would pick me up in a few days. Then as he left me and our 11 month old child their, he said he would pick me up when he had a job. Then he left and called me 1 hour later and said he wanted to divorce me and hung up the phone. A few days later, I called him and said I wanted to come home. Later that same day, he texted me the word talaq 3 times. He also wrote the same thing on Facebook messenger. Please tell me if this counts as irreversible divorce or not. He never spoke these words but wrote them. Now he is saying that it doesn't count because he never said it. Please help. I am currently living with my parents and thinking that I am divorced.

Three talaaqs

Q: I got married in 2004 and in the begining my husband gave me 2 talaaqs in extreme anger after that we made ruju. We got three kids Alhumdulillah and now two weeks ago my husband asked me I give you divorce. You want me to give in anger? It was just a question he asked me but he asked like that and in reply I was quite that time. Please tell me where we stand now And I also want to tell you we both don't know anything about talaaq. Before we found out one week ago all the terms our concept was like different about it. Please help us. We are worried.

Reuniting after divorce

Q: I converted to Islam and have been married for 15 years with my husband and two sons. Arrival to the problem. My husband has never been a very practising Muslim all these years and I must say I made life very simple. Saw repeated betrayals by me always forgiven for the sake of the family. Only in the past three years the situation has worsened with requests from him of sexual practises prohibited in Islam even in all morality. Whereupon I set him to see if he could without me to find the right path. So it was in fact I ask him to give me irrevocable repudiation instantly (while loving him yet). I didn't know anything about divorce in Islam but I though that this was the only way that he will change. He did not wish to give but at last he gave. I forced him to give me under threat. I unfortunately wasn't aware of the consequences of this thing because nobody told about divorce in Islam. Now only a few months after I realized that I really love him. It is my intent to get back. I would now like to come back together also for our children but as I said, unfortunately I do not know if we can. There are differing opinions. Some say that just a marriage with another person and divorce right away but others say I should even consummate this marriage (that is for me much difficult because I love and have always loved my husband and I would never think to betray him). Because having my good intent should I lose so cruelly. Please help me?