Janaazah

Who should participate in the ghusl of a deceased person?

Q:

1. Who should participate in the ghusl of a deceased person? Should it be done by the experienced people of the burial society, or should the relatives do it? What does the Sharia and Sunnat prefer?

2. A person gives a directive while living that his children should not do his ghusl because it will be an emotional/traumatizing experience for them and it is better done by strangers. Is this thinking correct?

Sunnats and aadaab when visiting the graveyard

Q:

1. I wanted to know the etiquette and sunnah when visiting the qabrastaan? What is best for one to do when in the qabrastaan?

2. What should one recite and what will be most beneficial to read for the deceased when in the qabrastaan (closest to sunnah)?

3. When is it sunnah and most preferable to visit the qabrastaan?

4. Is there anything mentioned regarding pouring water over the qabr? If there is any book or literature on visiting the graveyard then please do let us know.