Good Character

Q: Gheebah is a very great sin. الغيبة اشد من الزنا.

So lots of people take it lightly and will still end up speaking bad about people and ask that person forgiveness afterwards etc.

When a person speaks bad regarding another person, if it falls under gheebat, the persons good deeds goes to the person he has spoken ill about. Now if he asks that person forgiveness, even if the person forgives him, will he get his good deeds back? Or will it be such that he can now ask Allah for forgiveness as the person has forgiven him, but he'll have to restart his good deeds?

I feel that people don't realize the gravity of the sin of gheebah, and take it very lightly. Please advise. I'm not an aalima so I am afraid if I'm thinking wrongly so I dislike saying anything regarding it incase I am erroneous in this regard.

Q: If A writes a story about A's sister B, and A says that B has skill issue, etc. (the story is fake), has A backbitten B?

Q: I currently live in Pretoria and work in Jet Park (I travel about 128km a day to and from work). Currently I use my car everyday to work and back. I have previously looked at the Gautrain as an alternative, however it worked out a little too expensive for me.

Recently, my small brother informed me that he receives a discount on his Gautrain trips (as he is a student) but doesn't use this discount as his campus isn't so far and it's easier for him to drive. As he isn't using this discount- He had offered it to me to use his discount to travel to work.

My question - Would it be permissible to use his discount for my benefit (considering he is a student and I am not)?

Q: Is it permissible to speak a lie to not make someone worried about you?

Q: I keep hearing that we as Muslims have a duty to forgive others. But how can this be the case if we wish for them to be held accountable on the Day of Judgement?

I don’t want to forgive people who have hurt or harmed me as I want them to be brought to justice. And I don’t understand what is meant by ‘when we forgive it’s for us, not them,’ as forgiving those who have done me wrong does not bring me peace, but knowing they will be held to account does.

Q:

1. In Islam, what is the perspective on self-esteem and how can it be increased?

2. What is the Islamic perspective on self-confidence and how can it be increased?

Q: According to the Hanafi madhhab I would like to know how this principle of Husn Al-Zann is implied and what is the term for having a bad opinion or giving a bad opinion on unproven elements or on a simple imagination do these detractors have the right to doubt the intention of a person who clearly expresses the motivation for their action?

Q: What are some reasons behind someone feeling jealous so easily? And how can one change their mind to gratitude and self-satisfaction?

If someone continously feels jealousy unintentionally when they are trying to remove it repeatedly, and they still feel heart hardening, is this still jealousy? I feel it severely maybe because of arrogance or wanting praise and recognition.

Is there any difference between envy and jealousy in Islam?

Q: Is it a sin to wish that your oppressor or abuser was dead?

Q: If a youngster is sitting in a gathering of adults wherein gheebah is taking place and he cannot leave, what should he do?