Semen retention

Q: Is semen retention (meaning after going to wife and not releasing semen) permissible? This is a meditative art to control the mind and body. I want to ask you that if I do not release semen or sperm after intercourse for 4 to 8 days? I don't do this for birth control but just for maintaining energy in my body. Is it permissible to do so?

Celebrating the birthday of Nabi (sallallahu alaihi wasallam)

Q:

1. According to the hadith, immitation of kuffar is haram. So if I eat a birthday chocolate someone gave me and went away, is it harasm? Because its a non-Muslim practice to celebrate birthdays.

E.g. If I got a chocolate on someone's birthday and I kept it and after 2 days I ate it, is it haraam because that chocolate was purchased for a haraam act which is celebrating a birthday which itself is immitation of kuffar?

2. Ruling regarding celebrating Nabi Muhammad's (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) birthday. Is it imitation of Christians, because they celebrate Christmas like Isa (alaihis salaam) birthday?

3. If a Quran is printed in an industry, like from softcopy to hardcopy, then is it man made or Allah made it? I mean if everything Allah created then what about the above case where hard copy of Quran was made by using a machine. Is it then machine made? Also if a man writes whole Qur'an, just as one photocopies, was the Quran made by a human because a human was the one who took ink and paper and wrote the Quran and compiled it or Allah made it?

Celebrations in Islam

Q: In Islam there are only two celebrations, namely Eid al-Fitr and Eid al-Adha; anything other than these two celebrations is an innovated festival or occasion and it is not permissible to celebrate it or to help others to do so. Is this ruling correct? I got this from website.

Also is celebrating birthday not allowed due to this if so?

Patience during difficult times

Q: I am a 28 year old single woman who works full time. I moved in with my grandmother when I was 14 as I left my home after being sexually abused by my step father. My mother chose not to believe me and continued to live with him.

I am deeply unhappy with where I am living. My grandmother and uncles resent me being there. I have been emotionally abused and told to get married and leave. There is so much pressure to get married that it has put me off marriage altogether.

I also am very unhappy about having to lie to others about why I do not live with my mother and covering for my stepfather. I’m not sure how I can go into a marriage with lies about my past. I don’t want to lie and I want my mother and family to believe that the abuse happened.

I’ve come to a point where I feel very low and almost despair for my future. I want to move out of my grandmothers and live alone to work on my own happiness and peace. Then inshallah marriage and everything else will fall into place. At the same time I’m conflicted as to doing what’s right by me or what’s right by my family. It wouldn’t be culturally accepted for me to live alone unmarried. I

want to ask what the right thing to do is from an Islamic and not cultural perspective.

Method of making tayammum with a small stone

Q: In Tayammum, is it necessary that the whole palm/hand be able to touch the earth? For example, if someone is sick on a hospital bed, if a small pebble was brought to them, and when they strike this pebble, first with the right hand and then with the left hand, a very small part of the palms touches the pebble... would this taymmum be valid? So actually my questions are:

1. Can the hands strike the "earth" separately (first strike with right and then left), or do both have to strike the earth together?

2. Can tayammum be done with "earth" which is so small that the whole surface area of the palm doesn't cover the "earth". 

Kisi musalmaan ko kaafir kehna

Q: Main ap sa poochna tha kay kaya kisi Muslim ko kafir kehny sa banda khud kafir ho jata hai? Kal hum tv daikh rahy thy to mary husband na ak politician ko kaha kafir ka bacha jab k jis k lia unhon na yeh word use kia uski death hi chuki ha wo khud ak dam upset ho gye ar Allah sa mafi b mangi ar mjhy keh rhy thy k main na usko kafir samjh k nahi kaha ghussay ar nafrat ma kaha ma usko Muslim w samjhta hoon to plz btain kay kya hukam ha is bary main kya banda wakai islam sa nikal jata hai ar kya tajdeed e nikkah ar imaan bhi karna hota hai