Talaaq

Reconciling after three talaaqs

Q: Five years ago, me and my husband were having problems in our marriage, so I asked for a third talaaq and he sent it to me via a text message. He said that he didn't do it from his heart. We are both still single and we haven't been married to anyone else, we both still love eachother. I want to know the ruling in this matter, what is the proceedure or was our divorce invalid?

Telling one's wife "Get out of my life"

Q: Me and my wife have been married for two years now. We fight often because we both have anger issues but at the same time we love each other alot. One day, the fight was so extreme that my wife started screaming and she said "I need divorce". She was out of her mind. Now she says that she doesn't remember what happened to her and she swear to Allah that she never meant it. When she said it, I got angry. After a few minutes of talking, I also lost my temper and just angrily said, "Get out of my life" but I also swear to Allah that I never meant it. I was only saying this out of frustration but never ever meant it.

Is it talaaq-e-kinayaa because we both never meant what we said and we can put our hands on the Quran and say it. The next day I told her that I take all my words back, you are my wife and I love you. She did the same and then we hugged each other and had physical relation as well. 

Telling one's wife, "get out, get lost" etc.

Q:

1. Sometimes my wife comes to me and asks me about doing something. I reply to her "jo dil chahe karo", Is say it sometimes to show my anger, and sometimes just to tell her that she can do it or not. I never used the word "free" or "azad" or "farigh" and never intended divorce. Additionally, we both originate from same city and same neighborhoods, and we both don't understand "jo dil chahe karo" is not considered exclusive term for divorce.

2. During a fight I used the words such as dafa hojao "get lost", "buy ticket and leave", "get out" etc. and never once intended divorce.

Telling one's wife "mujhe tumhare sath nahi rehna"

Q:

1. During an argument/fight, my wife said to me “mujhe tumhare sath nahi rehna” and I replied to her “mujhe bhi tumhare sath nahi rehna” so will it be a talaaq?

2. Is the word “mujhe tumhare sath nahi rehna” a word of talaaq?

3. Is saying to one’s wife “mujhe tumhare sath rishta nahi rakhna” will lead to talaaq. Is this sentence a word of talaaq?

Will talaaq take place if husband says "That's it"?

Q: I have this issue which happened last year, but it has been playing in my head ever since.

Whilst my wife was fighting with me and moaning about my mum and sisters, she was upstairs saying this and I was on the sofa downstairs. She kept going on about them and in my head thoughts came up to say ‘that’s it I can’t take this anymore I want a divorce’. This was in my thoughts and was not spoken out loud at this point. Then straight after this thought she stopped for a few seconds and then started saying stuff again and I then immediately got up and said ‘that’s it’ so quick without thinking but I don’t know if my intention was divorce or to say I am fed up with you moaning.

After a little 5 second break of me saying ‘that’s it’ I said I’m going to speak to my mum and dad, and they can speak to your mum and dad’ I may have been referring to divorce or about her moaning I really can’t remember.

Since then my head has been playing this scenario back to back trying to find out what my real intention was when I said the words above, I really can’t remember now as it happened last year.

I would say 90-95 percent may have been with intention of divorce but there is a doubt of 5 to 10 percent that I did not and was just fed up of her moaning all the time as it happened so quick. I also get waswasa where the words divorce are most of the time just in my head even when I try to ignore them and I could be having a normal conversation with my wife and the words would just been in my head whilst speaking during a normal conversation as well as fighting.

Please can you confirm the status of my marriage and if I am needed to do my nikah again and if I do. Do I give dowry again and how many witnesses do I need?

Husband using the word "divorced"

Q: A few days back I was sitting with my kids and husband. He said to me that it's your mistake that you didn't give the kid anything to eat. I replied, "as you have already diagnosed it to be a mistake then i'll not explain". He said,"diagnosed, divorced." I said what did you say. He repeated again divorced. I asked what do you mean. He said you said diagnosed. I said divorced, anthing else. According to him he just spoke a metaphor similar to the word diagnosed. He didn't mean to divorce me. Kindly guide me whats the status of my marital status now?