Talaaq

Q: I am facing a difficulty in marriage. My husband had a love marriage before, then for some reasons they split up and he got married to me. Its been 6 years now and we have two kids but my husband have never forgot her and he mistreats me when he thinks of her. Now after 7 years of their split up he has contacted her and asked her to marry him again. In this country there is no rule for two wives and I also heard that in Islam it is allowed if you can treat them equally, which is not possible here. She has told him not to do so and fix his relation with me but he is still insisting on her by sending her love mails etc. I am worried about myself and my kids and cannot find any way, besides I feel like it is not possible for me to leave him as I love him and he is the father of my kids. Even he knows that his relation with her won't last for long but still there is some thing that is pulling him in that direction. I am reciting "Surah Dahr" 11 times for 11 days and "Ya Wadoodo" 41 times every day. In anger he has said several times that he divorced me but he doesn't believe that one can be divorced just by saying. If some one can help me in this I will be great full.

Q: After divorce and iddat is it permissible for a lady to ask the husband to pay her rent while the children are in her custody?

Q: If someone says I have given talaaq and also writes on paper, does talaaq occur?

Q: I want to know about a problem which has effected me and my life a lot. My husband converted from shiaism although Masha Allah he has improved a lot in Imaan but still he is not acquainted with all sunni procedures. He is a high blood pressure patient and at times he says that please do not make me angry. I become mad in anger and do not know what to do, now the question is that one day on phone during fighting I was telling him that as you during our days of engagement used to say meri taraf say azad ho now do not use such things as it causes separation but he was insisting that Islam is not that tough that in anger if I say so without intention we would be separated, he said when I have to leave you I would use divorce word, we were still fighting that I asked him to let me talk to my mother in law who is still a shia and she said to me that no talaq never happens like this I was talking to her and in the background I heard my husband saying meri taraf say azad hai he was in anger and I think that as to repeat in anger he said this meri taraf say azad hai azad hai I asked my mother inlaw, you heard what he said? She said no I heard nothing he is in anger he talking to himself. I told her the words she said no I heard nothing like that I asked my husband he said I did not say any word to get you separated he said he was in much anger but he swore to Quran and Allah that he had not said azad words and he said he never had any intention of divorce if he had used divorce words. Then I cried and hang up. He called and said do you have Quran with translation and read Ayat 227-230 and said tum bakwas karte ho in Quran its word talaq for separation then he said you just fight for nothing i love you and i do not want to leave you then he gave Quran to aunty who read ahead and told him that in Quran it is allowed to marry 4 yateem girls he told me then i said even halala is also a solution in Quran he said in extreme anger that phir mein tumhein farigh karta hoin phir tum karlo halala. I asked what is yours intention he said shutup you are my wife and i am in anger i do not want to lose you I told him his words he said no i said to phir dafa hojao aur karo halalay and that too so that you shut shut up he swore upon Holy book that he never want to leave me or divorce me he said he was in much anger but he knew that talaq word would separate us thats why he didn't use it. Please tell me my husband says he never said words of separation and even my saas says she had not heard it now what is my condition what about talaq?

Q: Am I correct in understanding that Fasakh as understood by the Ahlus Sunnah wal Jamah is based on the ijma practice of the Sahaba (Radiyallahu Anhu)? Mufti I am very staunch that we follow orthodox Fiqh and I am not seeking to cause problems, instead I am trying to defend particularly the Shafi mazhab against people who argue that they can make ijtihad and grant a fasakh as equal to a Talaq (i.e. without any conditions at all).

And as much as all sunni Ulama reject this assertion of theirs I would like to understand what the Sunni view is based on, please.  

Q: My husband gave me one talaaq. Before I could complete my iddat he had sexual intercourse with me against my will. Is our marriage still reconciled even though it happened against my will?

Q: One of my colleague got married last year. But his wife initially was not sent to his house with both side family consent. As they were waiting for a grand party to be done from both side. Nikah was done very simply. But before that his wife came to stay with him for some time due to some urgent work in the city. They were staying like husband and wife. However my friend did not tell me whether they had husband and wife relationship. After staying with the husband for 4 weeks approximately the girl went back to her father's house and started telling her father that she has lot of problems with her husband and wants to study higher but till the completion of her studies she will not have any husband wife relationship. After 2-3 months of conversations, girl's father on behalf of girl sent a legal notice of divorce. In which it was mentioned that if my friend does not reply for this notice within 3 months divorce will be done automatically. Is this divorce right according to Shari'ah when the boy didn't say 3 times talaaq however he was ready to be separated?

Q: What is the procedure of doing faskh to annul the nikah?

Q: A husband and wife were having a bad fight, she was packing her bags to leave him, he was happy to let her go and he said to her "go, you are free till qiyamah". Does this mean she is divorced from him?

Q: Please advise if this statement constitutes a talaaq? This email was sent to me by my husband.

“I am just contemplating whether to give all three talaaqs at once and get done or do it in stages but the point is the same I think all three and its done and dusted”