Tahaarat

Q: My question is regarding istinjaa and relieving oneself/washing etc. I suffer from a lot of doubts and Alhumdullilah by the will of Allah I am trying to get rid of them. I have a lot of doubt and worry however when going to the bathroom and have a couple of questions: 

1. After completely squeezing and wiping urine from my private part I use water to wash as well. sometimes when washing I see that a very tiny droplet of water has touched the hair of my thigh and i start pouring water there and on the other thigh and start to get obsessive, this is starting to affect my skin also. Is this water that touches my private part after completely impure? (this is when washing after completely squeezing all urine drops off and wiping with toilet paper)

2. After passing stool, because of my doubt I do not know if I am clean an end up looking at the tissue after wiping to see if there is any stool on it. Sometimes when looking as well I see a tiny black dot which could be thread from underwear, or hair even some skin maybe and I carry on washing and wiping wasting toilet paper and water. How many times does a person need to wash before becoming clean? 

Please advise as these doubts trouble me and I end up pouring water over the taps and jugs messing the bathroom as I think my finger touched there or some water touched my finger and this might have messed somewhere else.

Q: If semen was ejaculated from its place of origin with desire but at the time of it coming out of the penis there was no desire, ghusl will be required. So for instance semen came out of its place of origin with desire, but before it could start coming out of your penis you squeezed and held your penis and thus stopped it coming out and after that you waited for your desire to subside and you let go of the squeeze upon which the sperm came out without desire, ghusl will be fard required [heavenly ornaments, page 73, point 1].

My question is what if you had an orgasm and semen was ejaculated from its place of origin and before it could come out of your penis you took forty steps, slept or urinated and after that sperm came out of your penis without desire would you still require ghusl?

Q: Does a female have to take a ghusal after istihaza? If she did not does she have to make qaza for salaah read in that period?

Q: I need clarification on this issue. I would appreciate a detailed response if that is ok. Does mere orgasm in a man or woman require ghusl? I was studying fiqh [quduri] with a brother and he said even if you have an orgasm and nothing comes out ghusl will be required. His reasoning was the text mentions leaving its place of origin [i.e. the loins] and when you orgasm this sperm leaves its place of origin. I further asked him what if you took 40 steps or slept or urinated and then sperm came out without desire, he said even then ghusl required as it is stuck in the passageway and will come out with urination. But sunnipath says otherwise:

In the Hanafi school, in order for the ejaculation to nullify ritual purity, it must be accompanied with sexual gratification (shah-wah) at the time of leaving it's place of origin (i.e. the loins). Once orgasm has begun and based on it ejaculate exists from the penis, ritual purification will be nullified. According to the stronger opinion within the school, forceful exiting in spurts is not a condition provided that the initial cause was orgasm and sexual gratification (and not lifting some heavy object etc.). Given this, semen which remained in the passageway and exited after the completion of ghusl will require that the ghusl be repeated. However, when sleep, urinating or excessive walking occurs after the bath and before the exiting of the semen, due to these movements cleaning the passageway and halting the dripping of all semen, any semen to exit thereafter will not be attributed to the initial gratification. In the latter case, owing to absence of sexual gratification, ritual purity will remain intact. [Ibn Abidin, Radd al-Muhtar, 1.160]

Is there a difference of opinion?

Q: Is the root of a hair Taahir or Najis?

Q: If someone has an orgasm and nothing comes out, ghusl is not necessary? But say after urinating or taking forty steps or sleeping some semen comes out without desire, will ghusl be required then?

Q: I would like to know please, if a women gets discharge:

1. Does she have to make a fresh wudhu for zuhar salaah if she made wudhu after sunrise?
2. If not does she have to check and remove the najasah?
3. I the discharge is not regular(eg: she may not experience discharge for whole day), will she still have to make a fresh wudhu for each salaah?

Q: I got married 4 months ago and mistakenly I used the word nifaz instead of janaba while doing bath after monthly periods and was reading namaz and also quran daily. Do I have to give kaffara or I did a big mistake and your advice is appreciated. Please help I am in much dilemma.

Q: Because of medication, I experience retrograde ejaculation. When I reach an orgasm during sleep (due to a dream), nothing comes out, since the sperm is redirected to the urinary bladder and comes out later, with the urine. Does such a "wet dream" necessitate ghusl even though it isn't wet in my case?

Q: After urinating, very little urine leaks out, it's only a tiny drop of urine.  I don't notice when urine comes out, I cover and wrap my private part with tissue. When I check the tissue I see very little bit wet.

1. Can I pray more than 1 salah with 1 wudu for example pray zuhr and asr with 1 wudu?
2. I was told to do wudu for every prayer but it's difficult for me, I am not well.  If I pray more 1 salah with 1 wudu, would I be sinful?
3. I was told to ignore my urine problem, if I pay attention to it then shaytaan will hassle me so  shall I stop checking if a drop of urine came out or not?