Talaaq

Requesting a divorce from one's husband

Q: My husband is interested in other women. He stares at other women and he has told me that he cannot stop his eyes by staring at other women. He talks to every renter i.e. women. He makes other women sit on his bike by telling silly reasons and he even took pictures of our servant on his mobile. He texts awkward messeges to facebook girlfreinds. I made many duas in order to take him on the right path but his behaviour is not changing. Now I'm fed up with him and I cannot bear him anymore. My in law's also never take care about me. I wanted to take divorce, is it permissible?

Saying an ambiguous word of talaaq while arguing

Q: I understand that there has to be a niyyah when one says a phrase of kinaya talaaq. I wondered that if one is arguing, and one gets a feeling like wanting to divorce or a feeling like "come on do it now (leave her) and then says a kinaya statement like "go to your father", all happening in seconds, is that a clear intention that is necessarry? But if the person asks himself a few moments later did you want to definetly divorce her now by that, the answer is no. What do i do now as i dont know whether it was an intention that counted or not? 

Husband typing in a draft message "you go" without the intention of divorce

Q: If Arif writes "You Go" on a sms on his phone with this in mind that he is thinking that he is saying this to his wife Rubab, but on the sms there is no mention of Rubab's name neither her number is displayed in the 'To' Field, its all in the mind. Does the intention count then or is it just nothing. Bearing in mind, Arif suffers from constant wasawas in every aspect of life, marriage, salah, wudhu, ghusl. 

Fear of zihaar

Q: I am very tensed about a situation. I was having an argument with my wife and in anger I wanted to call her "Mother F______", but my tongue got stuck and instead I uttered the word "Mother" from my mouth. Have I committed "Zihar" though my intentions were not to call my wife "Mother". Should I now need to atone by freeing a slave, or observe fast, or serve food to needy people? My intentions were not to call my wife this.

Mother insisting on daughter to get a divorce from her husband

Q: I am a 25 year old Sunni Muslim girl. My father chose a boy for me and I got married two months back but my mother doesn't like the groom from day one because he is financially unstable and she is kind of possessive towards me. Now she wants that I should take a divorce and if I don't take a divorce, she will break all her relations with me. I don't have much of a problem with him and I m happy with him. I am in a dilemma, what should I do? I love both of them and I don't want to lose either my husband nor my mother.