Talaaq

Q: My husband told my mum last year that he divorces me twice in one sitting. He later said he doesn't remember this and following saying it he smashed his phone. He said it was as if he was not present when saying it, he didnt realise. Is this counted as talaq or ighlaq? I can only take his word for it. Since then, he has said many times that 'main khatam karna chahta hun aj' meaning I want to end it today. But when asked he says he has no intention of divorce and it was only in anger. I cannot live my life as I don't know if I am married anymore.

Q: My wife and I were having a conversation. We were talking about something regarding the sleeping patterns of our child. She wanted to try a different technique for our child who wakes up often at night to feed. I made the statement "Why don't you go to your parents house and try it". Prior to making this statement my intention was she go to her parents house for holiday. However I was aware that certain statements of this nature may constitute talaq. While I was making the statement, the thought and feeling came in my mind that my intention is talaq. I suffer from waswasa with certain things like whudu and salaah.

Does this constitute talaq?

Q: My sister and brother in laws abuse me very badly so I told my husband that I won't cook food for them. Then my husband said that if you won't cook food for them then I have also one condition that you have to leave your mother forever and never talk to her otherwise our relationship is over. On this condition I decided to go to my parents home then my husband stopped me by saying that do whatever you want but don't go. Then we started living as husband and wife but again he started forcing me to cook food for them and the argument continued but one night on 6 October 2016, I told my husband that why are you always forcing me to cook food for them as I have told you that I won't cook. Than my husband said that I have also told you that leave your mother otherwise our relationship is over talaak. Since then I am living with my parents. My husband says that come back I have not given you a talaak. Please tell me whether I am divorced or not?

Q: If my wife make intercourse with another person, will the talaq be executed automatically?

Q: If the wife asked the husband for talaq and the husband, in a joking way said that I give you 3 talaq. He was not serious, in a funny way he said that I give you 3 talaq. So will it be talaq?

Q: My friend's husband gave her talaq on stamp paper. He wrote three times talaq with my friends name, three times full sentence. He signed it. Two witnesses signatures also there and court stamp is also there. My question is, is this divorce valid and does it count as one divorce?

Q: I am separated from my husband for more than 6 months. My husband tries to arrange meeting and reconciliation but I dont want to go to my husband's home. Now my husband sends me notices that if i do not come within a particular date, it will be declared as a khula as I am not interested in any reconciliation done from my husband and he can get married again. If i don't reply or go on that particular date, will the khula take place? What will be the iddat period?

Q: If someone performs black magic on a married couple for the husband to divorce the wife and the husband divorces her, then is this divorce valid?

Q: Unfortunately we grew up in a time when our Islamic knowledge was very limited, hence it lead to a lot of mistakes and sins that we have committed. One being in question is that when we got married we followed the kaafir law of COP not realising and understanding the concept. Today it brings up alot of complications. Living in our country it is very difficult. People have advised us that the only way to rectify this is through an English divorce at the court. I am very afraid of this as the law of talaaq is not a simple issue and I don't want to live in sin and regret. Can Mufti Saheb please advise me on this.

Q: My situation is a bit confusing and embarrassing.

I married a man who I dearly love and who loves me. However during our marriage we fought quite a bit, I think it was because we were rececenlty married and because I came from a family of all girls with no father in my life and he came from a family of all boys. I think marriage was a shock. Deen was a big factor in our lives alhamdulillah. Unfortunately my husband divorced me 3 times. After the third time and our separation he regretted it unbearably. I missed him very much and realised all the silly things I had done and got angry about during our marriage. 

I then did halala, I know it's immoral hence embarrassed telling you. I didn't tell my husband or anyone else no one knows until this day. When I married I did not mention anything about halala at the time of the nikah and even before hardly except that the man knew I missed my husband and just wanted to back home to him. I can't remember I I mentioned that I might want divorce, but if I did it was definitely not at the time of nikah. This man never told me he was marrying me to give me back though, deep down I knew. I feel that this part of the nikah was valid. My concern is with the fact that he didn't match me in kuf and I had no wali present. I am a covered girl and my family quit pious and this man seemed religious however I found out he goes to mixed wedding etc, he is Lebanese so I assume there isn't much segregation between cousins and inlaws. There were two witnesses and a man that I chose to be my wakeel at the nikah. There was ijaab and qubool.

(Question 1) Was this valid even though he didn't match me in kuf? I asked one scholar here who said it's valid even without kuf, then I got paranoid and wanted confirmation so I asked another and he said it is invalid. I  am so confused because if it is invalid then my current nikah with my husband is also invalid. 

After my Iddah I am now back with my first husband and we are soo happy and getting along very well MashaAllah. I honestly feel like I have married another man when it comes to understanding and caring etc and I feel like I have changed too in a good way. I am also now preganant. 

My question is, (question 2) why has Allah blessed me and continued to bless me after such an immoral act I have done? It keeps me from doing extra amaal because I feel like I have deceived Islam too and am living in a haram way but Allah has blessed me and husband with happiness , (question 3) should I feel guilty about the halala for ever? Or should I let go? (Question 4) should I leave my husband because I did halala to get with him? I'm so confused and feel horrible for my bad deeds (question 5) do I still get reward for serving my husband etc even though unmarried him by doing halala?