Talaaq

Words of talaaq used in different areas

Q: I recently got married. I live abroad and my husband is in Pakistan. One day my husband was angry and said that agar tum Pakistan na ai to meri taraf se azad ho jo marzi kro. When he was calm I asked him what he meant from the word "azad". He said that he didn't mean it as divorce but used it as he wounldn't care about what I do and I am free to do whatever I want and he won't care. He said the word "azad" once. I wanted to know if it's condtional divorce? And what if i don't go to Pakistan will it be considered as one divorce? He assured me that he didn't use the word azad fot talaq but I read somewhere that if the husband says the word azad while he is angry then there is no need to ask about his intention as he meant it as divorce thats why I am worried. And if I go to Pakistan then would it still be consisdered as divorce? One last thing is that I have to come back to Denmark every six months because of my papers. So I asked him when he was calm if he meant that if this time I won't come then I am free or every time I have to go back to Pakistan? He said he meant it this time and not for future. I hope you understand my question and can answer me as I am really confused if I should go to Pakistan or not?

Separation and faskh

Q: Me and my wife are currently separated but not divorced. We have been separated for 6 weeks now. My questionson are as follows

1. How long are we allowed to be separated before our marriage is null and void?

2. My wife wants a fasagh however I want to reconcile. The problem was that I borrowed money from a friend and never told my wife and she only found out afterwards that I borrowed money from a female...is she allowed to be granted a fasagh on the basis of mistrust and lies?

3. If she insists for a fasagh and I dont want to because I still love her and for the sake of the children, can the Alim force her to give me a chance even though her parents don't want her to take me back?

Mistakenly uttering a talaaq

Q: My wife and I had an argument. I went to the bathroom to do wudu. In my mind I was thinking of her abusive words and imagining we are sitting with a family regarding our fighting in future. And she is using same abusive words. In answer to that in my mind I was saying "Mei tumhe". That was just in my mind. Then in this absent minded state, right after I uttered "Talaq deta hun". I held my tongue realizing what just happened with slip of tongue. I never even had intention of pronouncing this word. I can swear by anything that I did not even have intention of pronouncing it. But it happened with absent minded slip of tongue while thinking/imagining about it in future. Please let me know if one talaq counted.

Written talaaq

Q: My friend's husband sent her a divorce letter from union porishod from Bangladesh to America. But both of them were living in America at that time. Are they divorced now?

Halaala

Q: If three talaks are issued together in the same gathering then does halaala become compulsory in case the couple wants to remarry?

Husband forcing his wife to remove her niqaab

Q: Husband is against niqaab and compells wife to mingle with his family male members. He doesnt want to divorce her but pressuring and humiliating her for changing her to speak to men and fights for the same. Wife is keen on covering herself and wants to know if she can divorce her husband? Will Allah have anger on her if she do so? Their kid is 8 years old, will she get the custody of her kid?

Khula in front of a Qazi

Q: If a wife and husband both mutually agreed and signed on the khula papers infront of the Government Qazi and his two assistances. Is this khula valid or not? Her father and brother signed later but the husband demanded some amount, but he still did not take the amount. In this case, is the khula done or not? Does the marriage still exist?

Asking for khula

Q: My husband and me live in the same house which is my parents house and my husbands in laws house. My father kept his account card with his permission to save alot of money. People were jelous of our relationship as husband and wife. We had alot of arguments. Later he started to threaten me to leave me and he also use to mention talaq though it wasnt given. One day he left us and went back to his parents house undercover. After two weeks he decides to come back showing fake guiltiness so I didnt let him in the house. After a month he decided to go back to his parents as I never took him back. He is there and has spent almost all the money we saved for him he cant provide for his wife telling her this is my money, I work, dont touch my card. He threatens me of giving talaq and so forth. I feel I cannot fulfill the religious obligations. Would it be correct for me to ask for khula?