Talaaq

Talaaq issued over the phone

Q: My husband and I live apart since 2013. He used to come and see me often. He gave me one divorce in 2012 but then we went back together. He gave me another divorce in November 2014 but this time over the phone. When he gave it to me we still stayed in contact due to some paper work issues but he didn't ask me to come back to him neither he came to see me or take me back. I want to know if I am divorced as its been almost 6 months now.

Husband saying "I will leave you"

Q: It is requested to please clarify the issue regarding divorce. Husband and wife had a fight over the phone when no one was around. Wife reports the words said by the husband that "I will leave you" more than once. However, after 4-5 days the Husband regrets saying this and now reports that I didn't say these words. However, they now wants to live together, but the problem is that what does Shari'ah say when the husband denies these words but the wife reports these words with no witnesses? What would be the kafara for this? Please guide us in this difficult situation.

Husband saying "if I ever enter this house then I divorce"

Q: A person was standing in his in-laws house. Some argument with his sister in-law turned into heated debate and in extreme anger he said that if I ever enter this house then I divorce. He did not mention his wife’s name or even not pointed towards her. She was not even present there. He stopped just on that word and when others asked him what he meant he said he was in anger and do not have any intention of saying that. The things normalized after that and he was again happily sat with them. He left his in laws house after a day. Now question is if he ever enters that house, will there be any divorce while he is saying that he did not have such intentions and word slipped out of his mouth.

Waswasa of divorce

Q: I was angry with my wife. During anger i was getting waswasas about divorce but I controled myself and then I recited la halo wala khuwta illa bila. Few hours later I just speak in a low voice to shaitan that you cannot break my relation like that. This relation is made by Allah. This is my will, I will not leave her. In Urdu I said like me chah kar bi nae chor sakta. Bas ek dum mind me waswasa aya ka CAHA KAR kia metlab? Did you mean divorce. But it was a statement I did to tell shaitan that at any cost I will not leave her. There is no niyaat of giving her divorce. Is my nikaah valid?

Child born out of wedlock

Q: I'm hoping you can shed some light on this matter, nonetheless I have a daughter out of wedlock. Her father is Christian. I withheld visitation because I know I've committed a major sin. I've repented and I'm still doing it, anyway is it permissible for him to see and be an active role in her life? I don't know if there's anything I can do because he took me to childrens court. So she goes to him every Sunday. He feeds her food out of their house and they are pork eaters even though I send her lunch and snacks with. He even gives her food out of other Christian peoples house. I once saw his cousin's husband kissing her on her mouth. Any advice will be appreciated.

Talaaq via sms and whatsapp

Q: My husband gave me one talaaq via SMS in December while we were separated. We reconciled after a month. Then on Thursday night he gave me two talaaqs via whatsapp while we were sitting in the same house and while being intoxicated on dagga. We are currently separated. Are these talaaqs valid? Is my marriage over?