Doing hifz

Q: I just wanted to ask. I really want to become a haafiz but there are many things that bother me. I want to become haafiz but I am already 26 years old. Sometimes I think I want to work in Saudi so maybe I can recite Qur'an there or become hifz while working, sometimes I think I want to make a small business etc. I don't know what to do but I really want to become haafiz and I don't know how. I can't afford to go to madrasah. What should I do? Is becoming haafiz not meant for me? Is it bad for me that's why no matter what I do I feel like there is no way for me to become haafiz. I feel so down. I even pray seldom and I can't complete the five times prayer a day because I feel so down. I don't know what to do.

How will a woman who is experiencing menopause observe iddat?

Q: I want to know that if a woman had sex with her husband on 15.06.16 and separated on the same day. She thereafter did not meet her husband and had menses after one month. She claims with complete certainty that she is not pregnant. Her pregnancy tests are also negative. Her age is 53 and is going through the process of menopause and usually has menses after three to four months. Kindly tell me that if her husband gave her divorce will she have to go through iddat? If so what will be the criteria? 3 months or 3 menses?

Husband telling the wife "Go get another husband"

Q: I would like clarify the following. Emotionally down I asked my husband not to keep me hanging, if he wants to let me go he must. He said fine go. His intention was divorce so accordingly we made nikaah again. To provoke my husband (Allah forgive me) I told my husband I want another husband. He asked do you want another husband. I said yes. His replied go get another husband. He says talaaq did not fall as his intention was not talaaq. Was this a talaaq? I am confused with regards to how the first fell and this did not? We have many arguments however we love each other a lot. But pressure gets the better of us and we say silly things. I have doubts that similar statements were uttered. He says none are valid as he did not intend divorce. What is the ruling? Request for duaas.

Wet dream

Q:

1) If don't feel or remember any wet dream nor any normal dream nor any orgasm nor any sensation and nor any arousing but feel wetness on waking up or see little discharge like regular vaginal discharge so ghusl is fardh on me?

2) If I have a wet dream and feel wetness or see little vaginal discharge on my clothes but very sure that wetness is not mani or mazi ( may be sweat or istinja wetness) so ghusl is fardh on me?