Method of being steadfast on Islam

Q: Few months ago until now I try to change myself to be a better person. I'm really happy because I learned more about Islam which I never knew before. But it really made me sad when my friends abandoned me. They left me behind and they made me feel like I'm a stranger to them. I'm really sad because they never asked me to hang out with them. I get to know about it when I see their whataapp messages and so on. It makes me feel that I'm totally zero after I try to change myself because all my friends left me. So I don't know how to share my feelings to people. What should I do? Can you give me some encouragement on how to always be steadfast on Islam.

Parents not happy with the girl

Q: I really like a girl. I told this to my parents and my parents finally met the girl's family. Her family really liked me and my family and they were ready for our nikah, but my family said no for 3 reasons which are:

1- the girl doesn't wear hijab.

2- the girl is working in an IT company.

3- the girl doesn't have good looks.

I discussed the above points with the girl and she said that she will start wearing hijab very soon. Second point which they didn't like is she works. They justified it by saying that she won't be able to give much time to me, but I dont see a problem in this because first of all I also work in the IT field and I think we can manage it. Thirdly I dont have a problem with the girl's looks.

After clarifying and discussing the above points with the girl, I explained to my parents but they are still against it just because the girl doesn't have good looks. I tried convincing them a lot but they are not at all agreeing only because she doesnt have good looks. It's been already 2 months since our families met and the girl cant keep on waiting for a yes from our side. I tried my best to convince my parents and all they could tell me was that if I want to marry her then they wont have a problem but they will not be happy for this marriage and they will be hurt.

The girl is committed to deen and pious as far as I know and I am satisfied with her deen. My only question was her hijab and she said she will follow it very soon. I dont want to lose this girl as well as I dont want to hurt my parents but it seems that I have to choose one from the above two. Can parents stop their children from getting married just because of the looks? 

Discharging zakaat to people who one thought were recipients of zakaat

Q: My aunt was widowed when my cousins were very young. We were told that they can accept zakaat. Years later I realised that my aunt did not have cash but did have all her gold jewellery. The house my uncle had was sold and the money invested to pay their rent. My aunty worked and earned and my grandparents and family helped where they could.

Is our zakaat that we had given discharged, as it seems that the daughters did have gold, saved money and are entitled to about R67 000 each. As family we were told that they had nothing.

If the zakaat is not discharged how would one go about discharging it?