Backbiting

Q: If someone is mentioning something bad about a person who he knows but is unknown to me, is it backbiting? Will we both be sinful?​

Making dua for sabar

Q: Someone told me that we should not ask Allah Ta'ala for patience. If w​e ask for patience, Allah Ta'ala will afflict us with trials. Instead, we should ask for a blessed life and a grateful heart. Is this correct?