Marital problems

Q: A married woman with 3 chidren (7, 6, 2 years) has been cheating her husband and was in contact with unknown men for the last 6 years through internet facebook, whats app etc. She posted her pictures on facebook with makeup and even semi nude pictures in body fitness workout dress. Finally she committed zina after inviting one of the men to her home at the time her husband was at work. She repeated the zina at least once. She does not seem to be repentful. She used to lie, cheat, tell others that her husband is cruel. From clear “qaraa’in” she stole cash whenever she could. She used to spend hours and hours on internet and would go to her neighbours and spend time there chatting on internet and will then leave to cook food and will leave her home unattended. With all this, and her written confession of zina. Now her husband has cancelled her visa and has sent her back to her parents. Children were happy on her leaving because of her bad behaviour. She was so cruel she used to order the six year old son to iron the clothes though a maid would come for five days a week.

Now the questions:

1) is it jaiz that the husband and close relatives explain to children that the mother is not good has bad habits and not suitable for them to get together. If not done so, the children when become a little older will fight with the father with sympathy for the mother.

2) Is it jaiz to tell people when they ask about her that she committed zina and other bad things. Otherwise people have all the sympathy for the woman and blame husband

Marital problems

Q:

My husband and I have been having major difficulties in our marriage for a number of reasons for the last year. However last week we had a terrible fight. In this fight he told me that I must F... Off. I have been advised that this counts a one Talaq. Is this the case?

My 2nd questions is that my husband is impotent. I have asked him many times to seek medical assistance as this has been going on for many years. He however says that he is scared and doesn't want to go. To be honest this is a major source of unhappiness for me and a major contributing factor as to why we cannot overcome our difficulties. We no longer have a connection. I feel terrible resentment towards him for not even as least attempting to get help. When we have our fights and I say I am leaving he always says he is going to commit suicide and I get scared and decide not to leave. But this is now affecting my health and I feel oppressed and don't know which direction to go. What are my rights regarding this.