Talaaq

Q: I was like kind of attracted to my sister in law. About a year back my wife and I where having an argument. She was telling me that she does not like me talking to her sister and that I'm always talking to her sister etc. I always like had the thought that the rule regarding where a man touches his mother inlaw with lust nikah breaks may also apply to the sister in law also. I also had doubts as to weather rule may apply to the sister in law. I was not completely sure. Anyway, during that argument I told my wife "you know if I even touch her (my wifes sister) nikah breaks" with no intention of any talaq at all. I wasn't suspending or issuing a talaq I wasn't even thinking about talaq. I just told her that for it to seem as though that is the islamic ruling. I just guessed/made up/ lied for it to seem that that is the islamic ruling and for her not to worry and to give assurance. I had absolutely no intention of any talaq, the only intention I may have had was not to touch my sister in law because its a sin. After couple of months I touched my sister in law with lust then after a few months I may have touched her with lust again. Some muftis told me that no talaq takes place because I had no intention. Another told me that no talaq takes place because that's a completely wrong statement and the statement won't take effect coz that's not the masla etc. Another told me it like falls under explaining a masla. My question is (1) is there any suspended talaq in this situation? If yes how many talaqs take place?  Am I safe and do I have anything to worry about?

Q: Husband and wife slept in different rooms for more than a year. They had no children. The husband told her if she wants divorce then she has to return back to her parents. She returned back. She found out that the divorce was valid. Four years has passed. Please confirm if the divorce was valid?

Q: Although there was no real issue between me and my wife, her daughter had been a problem from day one. However to cut a long story short, My wife stated her reasons why she wanted a divorce and I reluctantly gave her 1 talak with the hope that we could reconcile. I did not want the divorce and still don't. However, she proclaims the marriage is over and now im confused. Can you clarify the situation?

Q: If a man tells his wife Allah haafiz intending divorce will it fall.

Q: In order for me to earn a living I have to go abroad and stay overseas for long periods of time. I have asked my wife to come with me but she refuses. I now have to go away again abroad for months on end staying on my own. She refuses to come with me. Can I give her talaaq on the basis that she refuses to come with me and that I find it hard to be on my own overseas for long periods of time?

Q: I was married for 19 years and having problems. I decided to take a second wife but was not happy about divorcin the first wife. My second wife made it condition if she marries me I must divorce the first wife. Her family put a lot of pressure on divorce. I got married to her and divorced the first wife after one week. I have four children. After being married for approximatly for 3 weeks i highly regret divorcin my first wife and consequently have lost all feelings for the second wife. I have no desire of stayin married. My second wife also has 3 children. I issued one irrevocable talaq to my first wife. I desperately need your urgent advice.

Q: I have a serious problem with waswasa about talaq. this has turned into a mental problem like obsesive compulsive disorder where these thoughts keep playing in my mind and sometimes I think I say it on my own in my mind. I have no control over it.  Numerous muftis have told me that talaq has to be verbal for it to be valid. After getting fatwas from muftis then I get these thoughts that maybe the mufti did not understand or did not hear the question correctly etc and I go into a state of depression. This is really affecting me. Whether I'm doing good or bad I get these thoughts. I am in constant fear of talaq. Its like almost always playing in my head.  My question is (1) as I said this has become a mental problem and because of this I sometimes say things in my MIND ONLY  which may not be waswasa but because of this mental problem that I have developed  like egs: if I'm on the internet I say in my mind  "if I click on a certain link its  talaq". Then I just ignore what I said in my mind and click on the link and carry on with whatever I'm doing. Does any talaq take place like this? I was told by other muftis that no talaq takes place. Please advice. This waswasa is really affecting me. I love my wife a lot. May Allah bless our marriage ameen.

Q: A friend of mine says that her husband gave her the control of one talaaq. What does this mean? And does it make any sense?