Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q: I have contracted a second marriage secretly. When my first wife found out some months later I confessed and openly went to live with her. The family being very upset did not accept this, the reason being

1. She worked in our store.

2. My son claims to have been intimate with her. He took her out for coffee and kissed her and also wanted to marry her.

3. She had some bad reputation /drugs /drinking /men.

4. She has an illegitimate son.

She became Muslim without being forced. I divorced her to keep every one happy she went into a depression and left town tried committing suicide. I felt I should help her. Her mother and father asked me to assist. Taking me as her husband, I took her back in nikkah again secretly. I brought her back home but could not live with her because of my family. I promised to take care of her. Is my intention and feeling to keep her due to the fact that I've seen her become a good woman? She now feels Islam is not just due to my actions. I've explained to her that due to the fact that she became Muslim all her passes sins would be forgiven, including my sons allegation that he slept with her which she deny's.

The question here is, is her slate cleaned as of her taking shahaadat or does her passed actions carry forward? In the event she slept with my son, she becomes haraam for me even though she slept with him prior to taking the shahaaada?

Q: My husband insists that we do golden shower (where he urinates on me and vice versa) and scat (where he stools on me and vice versa) during foreplay as this is his fetish. Is it allowed that we do this? I am scared that he maybe hit and abuse me if I refuse him of this pleasure. He also wants to ejeculate semen in my mouth when he cums. Is it allowed for him to do this because he says I will be getting sin and punishment if I do not obey him. Please give me some advise on what to do.

Q: What is the Shar’i ruling regarding a person who touched his daughter with lust, will his nikaah with his wife (daughter's mother) break?

Q: Is equality waajib during a journey?

Q: Is there any sin if one perceives more love within his heart for one wife, though he shows equal attention and maintains equality between his wives?

Q: Does the husband still have to maintain equality in the night turns when he is ill?

Q: Is there equality in sexual relations i.e. the number of times the husband had relations with one wife, is it compulsory upon him to have relations with the other wife the same number of times?

Q: How will the husband divide his time equally amongst his wives if he works during the night and is free during the day?

Q: Can you explain the method of equal distribution of time between wives and does equality of time extend to the day as well or is it restricted to the night? Similarly, could you inform me from what time till what time is it considered night? Does it end at Subah Saadiq or sunrise?

Q: If a person has two wives, one young and one old, is equality waajib between both?