Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Masturbation

Q: What is the ruling of masturbation in Islam for men and women? I have heard that it can cause weak memory and eyesight as well as other health problems.

Taking a second wife

Q: A girl wants to marry me and I want to marry her too. But we had physical relation About 2 years ago. In these two years i got married with other girl and now we also had a kid. But the first girl who had physical relation with me is still want too marry me. And i am thinking(planing) to make her my 2nd wife. She is agree and my wife is also agree with it too. What should i do. Is there any way(kaffara) to get married(2nd).

Remarrying despite the first husband revoking the talaaq

Q: I married a man in october 2013. We had some ups and down but Alhumdolillah we managed. Our nikah was not in knowledge of our parents. He was trying to explain his parents but his parents were asking for a Sayed girl as he is from a Sayed family. By that time my parents decided my marriage somewhere so I asked him to divorce me.

Now on 18th october 2016 he gave me one talaq but that time I didnt want to leave him and he too was not willing to leave me. After that we were in touch during my iddah as we couldn't control our desires. We used to have foreplay every other day and we had sex in December which was before my completion of my iddah.

Now I married other guy on 1st january 2017. I made sexual relationship with him too but it was during my menstual cycle but since 21st january, I am in UK and new guy is in Pakistan. My father knew about my first marriage but he didn't stop me from the second marriage. Now I got doubt that was my iddah of first marriage completed? Is my second marriage valid in islam? After having sex with my husband during my iddah period is our marriage reconciled? I don't want to go on path of sin. 

Being married to a woman and her niece at the same time

Q: I want to marry my wife's niece who is 25 years old. I am 35 years old. I know that I cannot have both at the same time, but I have heard that one can marry another woman without giving divorce if he and his current wife have mutual consent not to have any physical relations. Please tell me if I can marry my wife's niece as I stopped all physical relationship with my current wife.

Invalid nikaah

Q: I'm from India. 11 years ago my sister loved a Muslim boy who was 2 years younger to her and was a student. When this was disclosed in front of my parents, they asked her to stop all this in every possible way, that is by explaining her the difficulties she will face by marrying that boy, by telling her that if this matter will come out they will loose their respect in the society, by scolding her, by keeping an eye on her, even by beating her. But she and that boy didn't understand as they loved each other madly. Then my sister ran away with that boy and they conducted nikah in front of qazi, a non Muslim boy and a Muslim boy for whom we have doubt that he was of less than 18 years of age (Allah knows the best). No wali was present. Then my parents begged her to come back and they will marry her off with that boy in front of the society. When she and that boy came back, the boy's family said that they will not marry their son to my sister. Our father took us to Saudi Arabia, there he threatened my sister to forget that boy and live peacefully as someone told him that, that nikah was not valid as it was conducted without wali and the witnesses were not fulfilling the Islamic standard. Now everyone thought that, that nikah was invalid including my sister, so we didn't ask for talaq from that boy. After 2 years my sister got married to a nice man with her consent. She is having two kids with that marriage. That man don't know about my sister's past. It's been 9 years now. They are happily married.

Now we are in a big confusion that the previous nikah was valid or not? Is the present nikah and kids valid for her? Is a nikah conducted without wali considered as valid? We did not ask any mufti earlier as we thought that a nikah without wali is invalid. If this is not so then this another marriage has been conducted due to lack of proper knowledge. What is the ruling regarding this matter. Please help us.

Marrying a woman who was intimate with one's son

Q: I have contracted a second marriage secretly. When my first wife found out some months later I confessed and openly went to live with her. The family being very upset did not accept this, the reason being

1. She worked in our store.

2. My son claims to have been intimate with her. He took her out for coffee and kissed her and also wanted to marry her.

3. She had some bad reputation /drugs /drinking /men.

4. She has an illegitimate son.

She became Muslim without being forced. I divorced her to keep every one happy she went into a depression and left town tried committing suicide. I felt I should help her. Her mother and father asked me to assist. Taking me as her husband, I took her back in nikkah again secretly. I brought her back home but could not live with her because of my family. I promised to take care of her. Is my intention and feeling to keep her due to the fact that I've seen her become a good woman? She now feels Islam is not just due to my actions. I've explained to her that due to the fact that she became Muslim all her passes sins would be forgiven, including my sons allegation that he slept with her which she deny's.

The question here is, is her slate cleaned as of her taking shahaadat or does her passed actions carry forward? In the event she slept with my son, she becomes haraam for me even though she slept with him prior to taking the shahaaada?