Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q: If a married woman wishes to move out with her husband to a separate home due to multiple reasons and does not wish to stay with her in-laws provided he is the only son, will he be held sinful?

Q: I want to marry my wife's niece who is 25 years old. I am 35 years old. I know that I cannot have both at the same time, but I have heard that one can marry another woman without giving divorce if he and his current wife have mutual consent not to have any physical relations. Please tell me if I can marry my wife's niece as I stopped all physical relationship with my current wife.

Q: I'm from India. 11 years ago my sister loved a Muslim boy who was 2 years younger to her and was a student. When this was disclosed in front of my parents, they asked her to stop all this in every possible way, that is by explaining her the difficulties she will face by marrying that boy, by telling her that if this matter will come out they will loose their respect in the society, by scolding her, by keeping an eye on her, even by beating her. But she and that boy didn't understand as they loved each other madly. Then my sister ran away with that boy and they conducted nikah in front of qazi, a non Muslim boy and a Muslim boy for whom we have doubt that he was of less than 18 years of age (Allah knows the best). No wali was present. Then my parents begged her to come back and they will marry her off with that boy in front of the society. When she and that boy came back, the boy's family said that they will not marry their son to my sister. Our father took us to Saudi Arabia, there he threatened my sister to forget that boy and live peacefully as someone told him that, that nikah was not valid as it was conducted without wali and the witnesses were not fulfilling the Islamic standard. Now everyone thought that, that nikah was invalid including my sister, so we didn't ask for talaq from that boy. After 2 years my sister got married to a nice man with her consent. She is having two kids with that marriage. That man don't know about my sister's past. It's been 9 years now. They are happily married.

Now we are in a big confusion that the previous nikah was valid or not? Is the present nikah and kids valid for her? Is a nikah conducted without wali considered as valid? We did not ask any mufti earlier as we thought that a nikah without wali is invalid. If this is not so then this another marriage has been conducted due to lack of proper knowledge. What is the ruling regarding this matter. Please help us.

Q: Is observing purda necessary between a man and his adopted daughter or a woman and her adopted son when they reach the age of puberty?

Q: There is a proposal for my sister. The guy works for State Farm Insurance. He is senior claims advisor in the total loss department. He works in the auto property damage department. Is his income halal? Should we say no. My sister doesn't like that his income is from insurance.

Q: I have contracted a second marriage secretly. When my first wife found out some months later I confessed and openly went to live with her. The family being very upset did not accept this, the reason being

1. She worked in our store.

2. My son claims to have been intimate with her. He took her out for coffee and kissed her and also wanted to marry her.

3. She had some bad reputation /drugs /drinking /men.

4. She has an illegitimate son.

She became Muslim without being forced. I divorced her to keep every one happy she went into a depression and left town tried committing suicide. I felt I should help her. Her mother and father asked me to assist. Taking me as her husband, I took her back in nikkah again secretly. I brought her back home but could not live with her because of my family. I promised to take care of her. Is my intention and feeling to keep her due to the fact that I've seen her become a good woman? She now feels Islam is not just due to my actions. I've explained to her that due to the fact that she became Muslim all her passes sins would be forgiven, including my sons allegation that he slept with her which she deny's.

The question here is, is her slate cleaned as of her taking shahaadat or does her passed actions carry forward? In the event she slept with my son, she becomes haraam for me even though she slept with him prior to taking the shahaaada?

Q: My husband insists that we do golden shower (where he urinates on me and vice versa) and scat (where he stools on me and vice versa) during foreplay as this is his fetish. Is it allowed that we do this? I am scared that he maybe hit and abuse me if I refuse him of this pleasure. He also wants to ejeculate semen in my mouth when he cums. Is it allowed for him to do this because he says I will be getting sin and punishment if I do not obey him. Please give me some advise on what to do.

Q: What is the Shar’i ruling regarding a person who touched his daughter with lust, will his nikaah with his wife (daughter's mother) break?

Q: Is equality waajib during a journey?

Q: Is there any sin if one perceives more love within his heart for one wife, though he shows equal attention and maintains equality between his wives?