Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Masturbating

Q: I have a question. If I had masturbated in my sleep and then it actually was happening in reality due to the sleep. I am in control of it, because I didn't intentionally want to do it? I always fear masturbation and always trying to avoid such an act.

Living together without walimah

Q: My brother had nikah in a situation where his mother in-law was suffering from cancer and passed away one week before marriage so he had no walima done. Now after Ramdhaan my mother got seriously ill and had to opt for lumbar spine. She has to be in bed for at least three months. We are three siblings, two sisters and brother. Both sisters also married. Is it allowed for my brother to bring his wife without walima to look after my mother?

Waleemah

Q: If anybody with sadqa intention give marriage food is it allowed or not? People who are eating this food do not know it is sadqa.

Nikaah in the presence of two witnesses

Q: I am a divorced/single parent of one child. I have met someone in a halaal way and told that person I wanted to get married as soon as possible as I didn't want to commit zina. A few days ago we went to I think it was the Hanafi masjid and did our nikaah. The problem is I didn't as my wali which is my dad to stand up as my wali because I knew that he would want me to do nikkah in the way I wanted. So the Imman in the masjid stood as a wali for me. Now the problem is my husband looked into and phoned around to ask about this. Most of the place is saying it's invalid. Which is a big problem. So I've told my dad that I met someone and want to do nikkah but his telling me to think about it before I do it so told again I want to do nikaah as soon as possible but his telling me now he needs to think and tell me. I asked him why the need to make me wait he told me that I need to listen to him. My parents are divorced also on my mum side they do not practise Islam so I am waiting for my father now to tell me if he will be my wali or not. I really need some advice on this Insha Allah as now I'm missing the person I thought I was married to and also I live in a non Islamic house with my son. The person I want to be with is a practising Muslim and so am I. We pray five times Alhumdulilah and try our best when it comes to our Deen.

Homosexuality

Q: Are gay people born gay or they become gay after they are born? If they are born gay then how can Allah punish them and say they are committing sin? Because they are born gay. They naturally get attracted towards men. I saw few debates in which even doctors told studies shows that gay people are born gay. Please provide Answers with proof and evidence. If you say they are not born gay but they become gay afterwards then suggest what measures we can take to make them normal again.