Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q: I have been a resident in a foreign country for about 10 years. 2 years ago I met a woman who is completely feminine in nature. As time passed our relationship grew stronger. I wanted her to marry me and convert to Islam. She showed interest in doing so but the real problem is that she was born male by gender, and at the age of 21 she had her gender change operation and removed all the male sexual organs with female body parts. Now she is a women in all ways. There is no going back for her. She is supposed to be a women for the rest of her life. My question is, is there a possibility that a Muslim can still marry her given her circumstances , otherwise we know that to have gay/sexual relations with a man is a despicable sin. Please suggest me what to do.

Q: A friend states the following problem he is in. He has been in contact with a girl for just under two years. The girls parents agree for them to make nikaah but the girl's granny (daadi) refuses for it to happen since the boy is not Gujraati speaking, he is from an Urdu background. The granny has brought numerous guys to view the girl despite her not agreeing. So the father of the girl is trapped between his daughter and his mother. She also says that it is not jaaiz for the two since he is from a lower cast and what will her family say to them. My friend wants to make nikaah with the girl and she is afraid of marrying another person since she has opened up herself to him and he is the only guy she has been in contact with. So she cannot get into nikaah with someone else because she will fall into haraam with this guy again. Please advise should the guy's family approach the girl's family for a nikaah?

Q: In December I will be getting married and and my father wants to do walima in a very simple way like only family memebers of our home (sister, their husbands and my brother and her fiance) for a lunch or dinner gathering at my home. And by doing this we want to save money and wants to do two things.

1. Arrangement of lunch for the 500 kids of the madrasa on the same day.

2. Hajj performance for me and my wife in the same year.

Nowadays, minimum 6 lac required for any kind of ceremony for the 500 people and we think that its completely waste of money and showoff. So we want to utilise money in this way. Although we can do the ceremony like its happening these days but we think that feeding 500 madrasa kids is more important than the wealthy people. My questions are as follows:

1. Is this right doing this way?

2. Is this money can be used for hajj or not?

3. Walima is sunnat, will this be accomplished by doing it in this way? By feeding madrasa kids? Looking forward for your guidance.

Q: I have a divorcee woman with 3 teenage kids that wants to marry me. She is very adamant. I do not see her as suitable life partner but I worry that I might sin with her or someone else as I am not yet married. I have been told she does not need a wali, but can we conduct the nikaah ourselves as we are both reasonably old. What is the simplest way we can do nikaah just for ourselves.

Q: My spouse uttered words of kufr. She renewed her Imaan by reciting one or both kalimas, i.e. she may have recited first Kalima only or second Kalima only or both of them. I cannot now recall. She also recited Imaan-e-Mujmal and Imaan-e-mufassal and made tauba. Nikah was then re-performed. Is the Nikah valid even though she may have recited only one of the two kalimas? I do suffer from very bad waswasa regarding these matters, so please bear this in mind when answering.

Q: A man is married for 15 odd years (with kids) and thereafter decides to take on a second wife. He has provided for his first wife a house of x value however wants to provide for his future second wife a smaller accommodation of lesser value. He says it is safer for her to stay in. The future second wife is not materialistic but his decision without her consent has already left her feeling inferior and she is now unsure about her future with this man. What is the ruling on this and what do you advise?

Q: Who will be a representative of a revert Muslim women. All her family, parents, etc are non Muslim. 

Q: At what age does your nephews become mahram? And your brother who is divorced, is his son regarded as your mahram?

Q: A person in my family is arranging a walima dinner for his son. As he is poor, he is going to pay the dinner expenditures from the amount of zakaat received by others (including myself). My question is, is it permissible for me to attend the walima dinner?