Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q: If a girl and boy considers each other as husband and wife without proposal and acceptance, will their nikaah be valid or not? I saw in one tv program, there was female advocate who said that it was the opinion of Imam Abu Hanifa that if a man points to a woman in a gathering in front of many people and says that she is my wife and she remains silent, it means that their nikaah is valid. So what is the correct opinion? Will the nikaah be valid or not if any one does like this? 

Q: My mom said that during marriage, the husbands family asks the girl if she had completed reading the Quran in front of an aalim/muallima/ustaadh.

I find no logic behind this, please tell the ruling about this according to the sunnah.

Q: A married woman who is a mother of a 7 year old child is unhappy with her husband having an extra marital affair with a boy. They term it as a good friends relationship having "pure love" for each other without any physical relationship. Is such friendship or relationship permissible in Islam?

Q: I have a problem (of making ghusal farz by hands) for the last 5 years. I have tried my best to leave it. Once, I have been able to leave it for 3 months but after that I was caught by it again. I have asked forgiveness every time from Almighty Allah and alhmdulillah He has blessed me every time, but I couldnt leave the sin.

I am average in ibadaat. Sometimes I perform salaah 5 times a day for a month or few months and sometimes I leave it out for a few days and sometimes I dodge a few prayers.

Kindly tell me a simple and easy solution to leave out this sin. 

Q:

1. What is tahneek in Islam?

2. What are all the Islamic rituals to be performed after the birth of a baby boy or baby girl?

3. What about honey drops touching the lips or tongue of a newborn?

4. If a baby boy is born then when can circumcision be performed?

5. What aqeeqa will be given for a baby girl? 

Q: If a child is born out of wedlock (through zina), will he be attributed to the mother or the biological father? The biological father is pleased to take him as his own child and give him his surname. Is he the responsibility of the biological father and will the biological father have any rights over him? What is the shar'ee ruling in regard to a child born out of wedlock?

Q: When people in my family get married, they normally make a big thing with the groom. They splash him and throw food on him and make a big noise. This is before the nikaah. When he gets married then they trouble the couple and on the first night they peep and other things.

Would this be emulating kuffaar? I hate participating in this, but they force me to and get angry when I don’t participate and really give it to me. How should I combat this?

Q: Is it fine for a father to like his son more than his daughters and tell them that they are girls and they are the ones who supposed to do house chores. They are men and they don't need to do that.

Is it right for a father to be arrogant of being a man by gender which has been gifted by Allah? Is it that men are superior to women?

Q: If a man has an illegitimate child from an unmarried wonan, what should he do to protect the honour of the child?