Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Waleemah before sexual relations

Q:

1. Is it mandatory to have sex before walima? Many say walima is not halaal and first nights usually are not like what we see in movies as many factors are dependent (stress, fear, etc). Also should penis completely go into vagina and man should ejaculate or only tip is okay during first night.

2. Should a man ejaculate inside vagina whenever he has sex with his wife. During initial days of marriage couples usually are in fear and everything is
new.

3. Can couples use pullout method (before ejaculation remove penis from vagina) if not planning for pregnancy?

Taking a second wife

Q: I’m married for 5 years and Masha Allah we live a happy life. And now my husband is asking permission from me for a second wife. But as of our life now I’m just thinking should I permit him for this or not because he has two big daughters of 15 years. He is unable to take care of them with some money problems. His mother is also living separate at his sister home but in need of all the childrens help. But my husband is unable to help her also. Now I’m also not living in a wealthy life with some money issues. So my question is in this case a second wife is permissible for him or not? Do I have to give permission or not?

Is the husband liable to provide for his wife and children if they are living separately?

Q: My sister is in Canada, married with 2 kids (age 11 and 2), and as per her marital difference and diffculties they both husband wife decided to live separate for few months to see if they can bring sulah in between them. In the mean time, the kids staying with the mother. As, per sharia law what will be husband and wife's responsibilities as far as naan/nafkhaa is concern for mother and kids? Does mother have to go to work to take care of house and kids where she will be living for this few months? Or husband will have to provide something from his side to support two kids and wife?

Hall functions

Q: I recently stopped attending hall functions. I often get questioned as to why I'm not attending, as the functions are completely separate and no haraam is taking place. Please advise.