Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q:

1. I have been in a secret nikaah for 10 years. As such, we didnt do walima. My immediate family now know about my nikaah. Is it possible to do a walima so long after a nikaah?

2. Also, according to my husband he says that because I'm a secret wife, I have no right to inheritence according to Islam. Kindly confirm/clarify.

3. I must point out that 5 years ago, his first wife learnt about us. She was devastated but wanted to meet me. She has accepted his nikaah to me but insisted that the nikaah must still be kept a secret and set specific rules for us. So...is our nikaah still a secret one and is it justifying for her to set such rules and ask that the nikaah still be kept a secret?

Q: I have psoriatic arthritis. It gets worse after each pregnancy. After my 2nd child (I have 2), the bones in my feet and knees have become bad so I can only read salaah while sitting on a chair. I can't go on my knees at all as it causes excruciating pain and I can't wake up. In my case, would I be allowed to tie my tubes after a 3rd baby?

Q: What are the duties of in laws towards their son in law? Are they obliged by Islam to call and visit their son in law more often and if he is living abroad and comes after 7 months should that son in law be invited to any party etc? If a son in law takes this as an issue that why didn't they invite me home etc. what should a wife do in this case?

Q:

1. Is it permissible for a woman to request surgery (caesarian section) instead of natural birth so as to avoid the pain of labour?

2. Is there any nifas in the case of caesarian section birth?

Q: A person gave his daughter to his sister when she was a child (for adoption). Can she (the adopted girl) marry with the consent of her father's sister?

Q: My son was breastfed by a particular woman. Is that woman now my mahram?

Q: If a woman gets divorced, keeps it a secret, and then gets married again secretly. Her second marriage is done without her guardian but in the presence of two witnesses and it is not announced.

After some time, she reveals this secret only to her children. They keeps this secret for almost 8-9 years because the children are afraid and their parents constantly tell them to hide it. After those years of stress and frustration, their children reveal all this.

I have heard somewhere that hiding your marriage is actually commiting zina. I want to know if the couple is subjected to the hadd punishment and this includes her children too as they were hiding too all this time although they did not want to?

Q: I live with my husband, son and my elder brother in law. He is soon to be getting married insha Allah. I don’t want to live with him. I am trying to convince my husband to take some other place as I want some privacy and peace. It is haram by asking that ? Or am I a bad person just by putting my priorities my family’s happiness?

Whenever we discuss about this, initially my husband kept quit and then he used to say, yes we will see to it, but now he is forcing me and telling me I should live were he wants me to and if I want to shift to some other place leaving his brother then even I should stop all my contacts with my family. I don’t feel comfortable living with my brother in law. Is it a gunah for asking this to my husband? Please help me out.

Q: Can I marry my paternal uncle's son? His paternal grandfather and my paternal grandfather are full brothers. His father is elder to my father and is my paternal uncle. Is this marriage acceptable according to Islam?

Q:

1. Is it recommended or even mandatory that the woman orgasms during a sexual relationship with her husband.

2. If the husband has reached orgasm, is it mandatory or recommended to wait until the woman has her orgasm and then stop the sexual relationship.

3. For me, once I reach my orgasm (the sperm is out) I cannot continue the sexual activity, but my wife tells me that it is her right to have an orgasm also. The result is that all these words and attitudes have broken the desire for my wife. I do not want to touch my wife because I have a disgust in me. I have the impression that the roles are reversed, although I have always been indulgent in sex with my wife.

All the more her sexual appetite is much greater than mine, please advise us.