Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Living away from one's husband

Q: I am married to a man whose hometown is 200km away from mine. He was working abroad so he promised me not to separate me from my parents before our marriage. Now he came back to our country and started a business. He stays at his home. But I still stay with my parents as they are old and sick. I am their only daughter. They don't want to let me go to my husband. I am a teacher so, I go to my husband's house only on Saturdays and Sundays. We are married for 3 years and don't have children yet. Is it good to stay away from my husband as I need to look after my parents? Is it permissible? 

Getting married to a girl who was molested in childhood

Q: A relative was investigating a girl for my marriage. He learnt from a very reliable source that the girl was sexually molested when she was a child. When my parents learnt that the girl was molested as a child, they said that we should not investigate her anymore for my marriage.

Is this correct behavior? Is this a valid reason for not considering someone for marriage? In my opinion, it appears unfair to her as she was a na-baligh at the time. I do understand well that child sexual abuse victims often carry traumatic memories and emotional symptoms well into adulthood. But will this mean that one should not consider such a person for marriage entirely before looking at anything else, like character, morality, hayaa, etc.?

Wife working in one country and husband in another

Q: I got a job in the Maldives. So I moved to the Maldives with my husband and children. Now my husband got a job offer in the Gulf. He is willing to go probably in the next month or so. As per rules I need to complete 3 month notice period then only I can go back to my homeland. Is it allowed in Islam, if I stay abroad for 3 months without husband in the Maldives and then return.

Note: The children will be with me when my husband leaves and I have been staying in the Maldives for the last six months.

Hurmat-e-musaaharah

Q: I'm a 22 year old female. I remember that when I was 15 to 17 years of age, I was travelling in a car with my family and was sitting between my mother and father. At that time I was thinking about someone else and got sexually aroused. Now, I am horrified and wanted to know if hurmat musaaharah had taken place.

Only the left side of the body near the hips was in contact, but I was wearing 3 to 4 layers of clothes which is the salwar, a long top probably with a lining and a burqah. My father was wearing a shirt and a pant. When I think about that incident now, I think that the body heat was felt inspite of the layers of clothes (which together became a thick barrier) in between. Will hurmat take place?

Hurmat-e-musaaharah

Q: My father died two years ago. I was suddenly touched by my mother and I felt lust. What is the ruling for this?

I am unmarried now. When I get married:

1. Are my children allowed to marry my own brother's/sister's or step sister's children?

2. Can I marry my mother's brother's daughter?