Q: I know a person who is married to 2 wives. The relation between the two wives is aunt and niece i.e. the second wife is the first wife's niece (that means his first wife's brothers daughter). The second wife had physical intimacy with the man before his second marriage. Does hurmat musaharah takes place in this case? Is the second marriage valid or not?
Q: Can a husband hold his wife's hand in public?
Q: I would like to know if a boy can see many girls before deciding on which one he would like to marry, or should he see one girl at a time?
Q: I read about the Islamic ruling that a man should not touch his mother-in-law, and if he does that, his relationship with his wife will forever become haraam. I am very conscious about this.
Today I visited my in-laws with my wife and I was very conscious about it more than before. My mother-in-law wanted to give me a gift for my birthday and I did not accept the gift. She forcefully gave my the gift by lifting my hand and putting it in my hand. I had no sexual desire towards my mother-in-law before she handed it over to me and even when she held my hand to give me the gift, I had no sexual intentions. But, I had a rush of blood in my body when she was continuously insisting and forcing me to accept the gift. When she held my hand to give me the gift, there was a rush of blood, but believe me there was no sexual desire or intentions from my end. I am very much upset now that whether my wife has become haram on me?
Q:
1. Should the wife give preference to listening to her shaikh's bayaan or to do what the husband requests at that time.
2. Should the wife give preference to listening to the bayaan of an aalim that is a khalifah of her shaikh or to do what the husband requests at that time.
3. Should a wife give preference to read her wazifas for 1 hour or more when she wakes up around 8am or should she be attending to her husband's needs.
4. Is it permissible for a wife to play nazams and qiraat loudly in the house when she knows it causes a disturbance to the husband?
5. Is is permissible to play qiraat loudly in the house when other members of the family are sleeping?
6. Is it appropriate for the mother of children to let them sleep till 10am or 11am on Sundays and holidays? Should she not be inculcating the habit in them of waking up early and doing some work?
Q: I embraced Islam a few years ago. My brothers aren't Muslims. Will it still be permissible for me to hug them, talk to them, etc.?
Q: Is it possible to give a house bonded by the bank and a used vehicle with no idea on what the monetary value is as mahr? E.g. Maher is my house that I am living in (with a bond of 500 000.00) and my car but no mention of the value.
Q: My husband has decided to separate from me for two months. I am staying with my mum. What are the rules of separation. I have tried calling my husband to speak to him. Is this permissible? He doesn’t want to answer. I think he is under the impression that we’re not allowed to have any contact with one another.
Q: I got a proposal from a good, religious man. Ten years ago he once touched my mothers hand with a sinful/lustful intention not more than that. And my mom did not get to know about his intentions. He immediately repented and did not do that again. At that time he didn't know that he will be proposing to me.
If I marry this person, will our marriage be valid or not. It happened ten years ago. Also, now everyone knows that I'm getting married to him and it's so hard to leave each other and to convince our families.
Q: One of my friend proposed me 2 years back. I liked him from the beginning but I had a firm mindset that if my parents agree then we'll get married otherwise not. During the summer holidays I went back home and told my parents about him and they both said no. I thought that if they meet him once, they might change their mind. I told my brothers about him, they met him and they both said that he is a pious person with good character but if dad has said no then its a NO. Then I told my friend that my parents refused.
We had a few fights but we again became friends. 2 months back I started spending more time with him as I lost almost all my other friends but we always tried our best to maintain a halal distance. He started mentioning about the secret nikah here and there. Everytime he did, I got annoyed at him and told him not to think about it.
One day he said that either we do nikah or our friendship will be over forever. I said that if you want to finish the freindship then go ahead... bear in mind that at that time I was going through a tough time and depression and loneiness.
After a couple of days I went to him and said to him that I'm ready for the nikah. We did nikah in the presence of 2 witnesses who were both Muslim and mature.
My question is, according to the Hanafi fatwa "a mature girl can give herself in marriage without walis consent in the presence of 2 witnesses but the both boy and girl should be of same "social status".
That boy is African and I'm Pakistani. Do you think that the 2nd part of the fatwa in anyway nullifies the nikah or makes it invalid?