Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q: I was looking for a kitaab on sexual relations like what is permissible and what is not but I haven't been able to find clarity on the following:

1) Is your spouse allowed to finger you whilst you're on your haidh

2) Do you only make ghusal after his sexual organ enters your body or do you only make gusal after he ejaculates.

3) If you feel uncomfortable or extreme pain can you stop your husband

4) Is it permissible for a husband to put his mouth onto the sexual organ of his wife

Q: Do two witnesses have to be present/hear the woman give her consent to her wali/guardian for the nikaah?

Q: A couple got married 3 years ago and the agreement of nahr was on mahr fatimi. On the day of the nikka the groom did not have the full amount so the agreement was that he would pay it off later. The amount of 3000 was given and the remaing amount is 7700. 3 years has past and no payment was made. The husband and wife have an understanding that the husband will give it by the end of the year inshallah. The brides father keeps asking and embarrassing the groom. I just wanted to know if the brides father have a say in this matter?

Q: I am married and have 3 kids. I am the eldest in my family. My mother, one married and one unmarried brother lives with me in my house becasue my father passed away 9 years ago and my family moved in with me after that. Now both brothers are working as well. The relationship between my wife and mother is not good and it is going from bad to worse even after some reconsiliation and guiding. Both of them regard want their rights in Islam.

My wife is now demanding a separate accomodation and requesting me to ask my family to get a separate house because the house in which we are living is owned by her. I humbly request my brothers and mother but they all get annoyed and my mother gets very rude and very disappointed. I request them all to get accomodation near my house as they can afford it or I will support them in any way possible. I told my mother that I still love her and she is my first love. I respect her and I made this decision because of  my love for her. Did I do the right thing or did I disrespect my mother? 

Q: Is it allowed in Islam for husband to rub or put his penis inside wife's breasts?

Q: My question is what does the Sharia say when a Muslimah upload a video of herself telling her side of the story of being in a misyar marriage with a famous da'ee who took advantage of her? She did not explicit mentioned what exactly happened. She kept on saying that she has evidence on what occurred, but will not share them because the brother does not everyone to see and hear the conversation that took place between them. Many people are backbiting the brother. The sister said her purpose for making the video and uploading it on YouTube is to inform women who are interested to get marry to him that he had 4 wives before, but divorce took place a short while. She went on to say that he has his own view point regarding women, but she could not say what it is. She answered some people comments in the comment section that she asked scholars whether it is permissible for her to make this video, but she did not mentioned those scholars who said it is permissible to do this thing. The sister said that she and him made mistakes. But her other intention to upload this video is to expose dawah men would do behind the scenes like mistreating women since they are in a high position.

Q: I've been married for 2 years and my husband practises azl. I am not very young and would like a family but he is preventing it. He also always says he wants a second wife before we have children. This upsets me because I am his wife now and it feels unfair to me to be subjected to this. Is this grounds for leaving him.

Q: I'd like to ask if it is halal to marry my aunties sister in law meaning (my aunties husbands sister).

Q: My mother got pregnant and got the baby aborted. I think it was in the first month of pregnancy. Is this considered a murder?