Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Remaining unmarried

Q: A woman was once involved in many sexual sins like masturbation and pornography. But she understood the severity of these sins and left those sins and repented. Now she really doesnot fear to fall in those sins. If she doesnot get married ever will she be sinning.? She really doesnot want to get married ever. She will take necessary steps to stay away from haram. Will it be permissible for her to stay unmarried forever?

Boy's father not attending the nikaah

Q: I am an Indonesian, married to a Sudanese (living in Madinah, KSA). We married in my parents' house (un listed in government), while all his family members and his mother knew that we were getting marriedm except his father. His father actually knew but he said himself that officially he din't know because he doesn't accept our marriage, because my husband is still studying. The problem now, my parents want us to make it in government soon and everything is just being controlled. While I really wish for his father to bless us for our marriage, what do I have to do?

Touching one's father in law

Q: Somedays ago my father in law was ill. He is 76 yrs old and suffering brain stroke. When he was ill my mother in law was taking off his shirt because he was sweating. But she couldn't do it, so I helped her and touched my father in law's hand. Then I saw that his hand and my husbands hand is almost same type. I did not know what was the exact feeling, is it funny or surprising. Then I didn't give attention to it and I normally helped him. It was total of 1 or 1.5 min that I touched his hand. But I can remember very clearly that I felt disgusted when I touched his body because he was sweating. Then I removed my hand and washed it. Does that cause any harm in my relationship? My father in law cannot walk by himself, can't do anything without other's help. He can't move when he is lying in the bed. He can't even take his meal himself.

Marrying a Shia

Q: Can a Sunni girl marry a Shi’a boy? He does not believe that Ali (radhiyallahu anhu) was the next prophet nor does he place more importance to him, they believe in Allah and that Nabi (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) is the last messenger. They also follow the same Qur’an and have respect for all the other companions and family of the Nabi (sallallahu alaihi wasallam).

Dating and arranged marriage

Q: I read somewhere that when a couple date before marriage, the sins of dating could sabotage the happiness in the marriage and when things are done the halaal way then there’s less likelihood of problems arising. But, if anything should go wrong even when done the halaal way, then at least they would know that it was a test from Allah and that the sins of dating did not contribute to it since they would not have done so. Therefore, if they did everything in the halaal way, they wouldn’t have any regrets thinking they should have done things differently.

Umbilical cord banking

Q: What does the Ulama say about umbilical cord banking? Nowadays some people from hospital take away the newborn childs umbilical cord by saying that it will be preserved and used for the same baby in case of any serious disease in the future. How is this right for society and upto what extent?

Abortion

Q: Is abortion permissible if the life of the mother is at stake or if health professionals have noticed that the unborn child has abnormal deformities? What is the shariah ruling on abortion or the conditions that will permit one to have abortion in Islam?

Girl marrying without her parents consent

Q: Can a Muslim girl marry a Muslim boy without her parents consent? They like each otherand both of them study in a well-known varsity. Both of them are aware of their future but their parents will not allow them to marry now because both of them are not established. Recently they got involved in some sort of physical relationship that they cannot resist. So they want to be married to get rid of the sin. Can they marry now if they want to without their parents consent?