Wife not happy with the husband using preventative measures

Q: Under the following circumstances, is it ja'iz for me to use condoms to avoid pregnancy? For the past several years, my wife has been bedridden due to an incurable disease. About a year ago, I did a second marriage so that my second wife could take care of the house and myself. She is about 42 years old while I am 51 years of age. Recently, my second wife was diagnosed with diabetes. About a month ago, she underwent a minor surgery that required general anesthesia to be given to her. The surgery had to be delayed twice as her sugar level was not coming down and anesthesia could not be given. Finally, the doctors had to use some other method rather than anesthesia to do the surgery. I have been suffering from osteoporosis. In addition, over the past couple of years, have been losing weight. Doctors haven’t been able to diagnose the reason of weight loss and investigations are going on. Because of my and my second wife’s health issues I use condoms to avoid her becoming pregnant against her will. She wants to have at least one child.

Tasweer

Q: Is a cartoon picture of a giraffe with the eyes closed considered as tasweer, do the warnings in the hadith apply to it?

Clothes touching the face in ihraam

Q:

1. Is a women allowed to make her clothes touch her face when taking it off in ihram?

2. If the clothes touch the face when taking it of is sadaqa wajib?

، وَالْمَحْفُوظُ عَنْ عُلَمَائِنَا خِلَافُهُ وَهُوَ وُجُوبُ عَدَمِ مُمَاسَّةِ شَيْءٍ لِوَجْهِهَا رد المحتار فِي تَغْطِيَةِ كُلِّ الْوَجْهِ أَوْ الرَّأْسِ يَوْمًا أَوْ لَيْلَةً دَمٌ وَالرُّبُعُ مِنْهُمَا كَالْكُلِّ وَفِي الْأَقَلِّ مِنْ يَوْمٍ أَوْ مِنْ الرُّبُعِ صَدَقَةٌ كَمَا فِي اللُّبَابِ رد المحتار 

Marrying one's foster niece

Q: There are two sisters (Amna and Zulaika) and their mother died. After the death of their mother their father got married to Nasreen. The step mother of Amna and Zulaika (Nasreen) breastfed Amna's son Taimoor her milk. Can Taimoor perform nikah with his cousin who is the daughter of Zulaika? 

Making dua for one's father to change his bad habits

Q: My question is related to the relation of mine with my father as it is getting worse day by day. I am 22 years old. We belong to a middle class family and about 4 years ago we bought internet connection. My father is 56 years old now and when we bought the internet connection I was 18 and my father was 52. One day I saw my father watching porn on the internet and for me it was so heart breaking that I got shocked with the kind of mentality my father has. For some time I stayed silent that he might change his habits and for that I gave him some signals that I am aware of what he is doing when alone and at that time my sisters age was 12 years. I was more concerned that she might see him doing all this stuff and just few days later I saw my father was busy watching porn while my sister was standing behind him. On that particular day I broke my silence and told my mom about the whole incident. She talked to him and my father rejected my allegations upon him. This thing continued for about one year and he was losing his respect in my eyes. Last year we connected our tv set to cable and now he just watches tv, some movies and songs with bad dance. I dont like this also but I am silent as it is somehow better than what he was used to do. What I want to say is that he is stubborn and I do not respect him the same way like I used to or you can say that he has lost his respect. Our tv set is in front of my bed and I dont want him to sit on my bed when I am around, not because I do not respect him but because he used to sit in front of tv every time when he is free and for hours and I want my space on my bed because our house is small.

My question is that what should I do according to Islam and can I respect him or change him? Also, he has the habit of talking in loud voice and we hardly talk to eachother daily as my other relatives talk to their fathers.