Talaaq

Upholding the laws of Shariah in a non-Muslim country

Q: I need clarification on a matter. My wife and I have been having marital problems for some time and we have 2 sons ages 6 and 10. 

First question, we live in a non-Muslim country whose laws contradict with certain shariah rulings. For example a court does not consider the shariah method of child custody. As a Muslim, which law prevails? My reason for asking this is I was told that you cannot follow shariah when it suits you and not when it doesn't. 

Second question, in terms of children, my wife has said that if we have to divorce, then I will only get to see my kids every second weekend, is this Shariah? I seek clarification on this matter and understanding as in todays time we do not do what is in the best interest of the child but rather our own selfish needs based on hurt and trauma we have went through in our marriage.

Husband divorcing his wife before spending time in seclusion with her

Q: I have been divorced thrice before consummation by my ex-husband on call. 

We were on a terrace once but not in complete seclusion, there was another girl there with us. Also another time it was when we were in an educational institute but it was open, people could easily pass through. The other time it was in a lab where the windows were glass and see through, no physical touch took place. 

Do I have to observe iddat? And have all three divorces taken place? Because some muftis are saying that three divorces given in a single sitting are counted as one. 

Taking permission from the ex-husband when taking the children to different places

Q: I am a divorced woman with two daughters under the age of 9. 

I live with my parents and travel with them. Is it necessary to seek permission from my daughter's father everytime I take them out of town. I let him know out of courtesy and I only travel with a mahram. 

My children's father demands that I need to ask him before taking his daughters anywhere and when I do, he refuses the permission. He also wants to know exactly where I'm taking them, but I am afraid that he will show up there and harass ME. I know he's doing it just so he can control where I go and know where I am, but I am not his. I just don't want to be doing anything wrong Islamically whilst they're in my custody.

Issuing talaaqs from a fake Facebook account

Q: If Ahmed, with a different name, opened a Facebook account and wrote to a scholar of Islamic jurisprudence (fiqh) from this account, saying, 'I have divorced my wife with triple talaq, what should I do now? How can I take her back?' (when he hasn't actually divorced her, but is in doubt and told the situation as if it happened just to learn what to do if he were to do it), what is the meaning of the quoted text in this context?