Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q: I have an important concern in which I need a clarification from you please. I will explain you the scenario first for your understanding. Two Nikaahs. The first one is mine, the Nikkah is completely based on Sunnah which is insha Allah will be very simple and with proper mahar, this nikkah commences on the first day night of the second nikkah which is going to happen on the second day noon. The second day nikkah is for my sister. This nikaah is also with proper mahar and no dowry, but this Nikaah is done based on the traditions that take place in our place with Kuthbas and fatiha by the imaams and they recite Alli kuth bainama in the kuthba which here local scholars confirming this as bida'h. So on this second day my sisters husband is arranging a waleema in which he does not collect single penny from his wife's family. My question is can I Share my waleema with him? I mean, I need to give waleema right? Can me and my sister's husband share financially and give waleema to our family and relatives. Is this bida'h? Please I need your valuable input based on Shariah Sheik.

Q: Me and my wife to be along with my parents and her parents sat together to confirm our marriage proposal. Both parents asked us both if we are happy with each to get married and we both replied saying yes we are. Is our nikkah done and can we speak to each other now.

Q: I have been married for the past fourteen years now and we have no children though all our reports are normal (both of us). My wife's brother has a daughter and he is younger in age, he used to feel bad about this and finally took some strength and spoke to me that they will give birth to a new born and will hand it over to us. His wife is pregnant now. It was agreed between us, him, his family and the family of his wife and they are also very happy to give us the baby, they do not want a new child for themselves as they said we are happy with one child. Is this allowed as per Islam? Now the thing is that his wife is due in this month for delivery and we have no option for the same. But then too please let me know in the light of Islam.

Q: What are the islamic obligations or duties of a husband towards his wife, and a father towards his children, and when does a husband/father cease to be bound by these duties.

Q:

1. Is it allowed to use condoms with consent of both (wife and husband).

2. Use of dental dams (a streched thin rubber used to place on female private parts for kissing her private parts to prevent infection) has any concept in islam and can be used?

Q: I have a sister. She was married then her husband gave her talaaq. She supposed to sit in idda for 3 months. She told us she did, but unfortunately she didn't sit in iddah. She lied to us and now she is already married to someone else. Is her second marriage valid?

Q: Just wanted to ask the ruling and some advice regarding an Islamic wedding. My weddings coming up soon and Ive been told that my spouse is not allowed to sit to eat with me on the wedding day. The wedding will be fully segregated but is the groom allowed to come into the womens hall to sit next to the bride to eat? They will be no massive entrance that all the women will look at the groom entering. Also the table will be in the corner of the hall and only immediate family would be sat around. So is this allowed? As Ive been told I am not allowed to see my spouse at all until the end of the wedding but isnt a wedding day meant to be spent with the one you are marrying? The nikah will be done weeks before so Im guessing its ok in Islam to sit next to your spouse on the actual day.

I have learnt that the best nikah or wedding is the one with the least expenses. Alhamdullilah we have spent on a budget but its just these few problems that have appeared. Also Ive been told that cutting a cake with your spouse is against islam too. Is this true? Maybe its not a sunnah but is it forbidden in islam? The cake would be cut towards the end where there is only close family left. So im confused as to why it is not allowed.

I have also been given many negative thoughts about married life. For example if I was to be upset about something my in laws would hate me for it and my marriage wouldn't work out. As long as I know marriage is meant to be a happy step in life. I know some parts would be upsetting like leaving home but why am I getting negative thoughts about marriage. I have already thought the worse about everything and it has got the better of me. Im just confused and feel sad about getting married now. As all these thoughts have filled my head up and i can no longer see any positive in my life or the future. I just need some advice on this matter.

Q:

1. If a wife committed zina but husband forgives her, do they remain husband wife or their nikah will be ended?

2. After forgiving, they did not have any relation as husband wife and now they want to be husband and wife again, what should they do?

Q:

1. I am a married man and I wanna know if it is allowed in Islam to massage and kiss my wife's feet? My wife is a Muslim... I asked her and she said yes.... I Just wanna know if it's allowed in Islam

2. Can a unmarried man kiss the feet of an unmarried women?