Nikaah & Marriage Issues

At what age should girl get married?

Q: I am a 19 year old female and would like to know

1. What is the right age for a Muslim women to make nikah?

2. According to the sunnah how should a woman find a spouse?

3. Why do the Ulamaa say its best for a pregnant woman to read Surah Maryam and Surah Yusuf during her pregnancy?

4. What are the benefit of reading those surahs?

5. Are there any ahadith saying that married women should live/stay with their in laws?

Marrying one's cousin's son

Q: I am a woman. I have received a marriage proposal from my maternal cousin for his son. My query comes here as I have never considered him with any other feelings except as a son/nephew as he born to my cousins sister. And now my doubt is as I have felt him as my nephew/son, is it permissible for me to marry him? Will my marriage with him be accepted by Allah? Earlier I have considered him as something else, and now I am entering into Nikah with him.

Marrying a Shia

Q: I need help and assistant with something and is very serious. I am a sunni girl and want to marry a man who is a shia. We want to get married so we can start our future together but unfortunately due to him being a shia my parents are not agreeing. I have known this man for a long time and know that he is very kind hearted person and loves me for who I am and wouldnt ever change me. My father says that it is really bad and that I will be jumping into hell if I marry him and will take my parents to hell too. Making me feel like a bad person! I want to marry this person and he believes in Allah (swt), our Prophets, and the Quran so how can he not be a Muslim?! And also he doesnt curse the Sahabahs. And yes I know there are differences but they are opinions and other arguments between sunnis and shias and are politicial rather than religious. Also there are stuff that we both spoke about after we marry for example our kids and cleared all that but my dad is still being stubborn and feels that they feel change me into shia (which I know he wouldn't!) and also that he has read stuff that shows shias are just kafirs basically. He isnt even agreeing to meet him and im stuck because i cant leave either, my family or him! if i was to leave home what would happen then, would i get gunah for marrying a shia man?

Homosexuality

Q: I am 32 year old Muslim man getting married in a couple of months. My problem is that I get sexually attracted towards boys and since childhood to till date I have multiple sexual rekationships with boys. My problem is that I don't get attracted towards females and this issue is there with me when I was almost 7-8 years old. I met Dr's also in this connection but after doing some test they said bilogically your male sex hormones are normal only it is mental preferance. I dont want to destroy anyones life. Requesting you to please help me in this, so that I can control my emotions and live a respectable life and also save from myself from gunnah.