Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Parents explaining to their son about puberty and related issues

Q: My son is about to be 11 years old. My husband and I have started to observe the signs of puberty in him. My husband has decided to give him a talk about the respective topic including sex. The concern is my husband states that the mother of the child must be present whenever this talk is to take place so that if a child has any query regarding the topic concerning the role of a female, a mother is the best source to provide an answer with basic guidelines. In Islam, is the presence of mother a must with respect to above situation?

Hurmat-e-musaaharah if one did not get an erection

Q: Does hurmat-e-musaaharah become established if a person does not get any movement/erection in his private part, but he is not sure if he gets any arousing feeling in his private part. He was also feeling scared and in his heart he had thoughts like he was feelimg lust however he did not get any erection/movement. He was scared that he will cause hurmat. He did not get any sexual thoughts (which may have triggered lust).

Undergoing surgery to become impotent

Q: I am an unmarried male close to my thirties. My urges have become very extreme and sometimes out of control. My parents are not agreeing on getting me married. I am now very worried due to the fear that I might fall into the sinful act of zina due to my extreme urges. My question is that is it ok in Islam if I kill my sex drive permanently or become impotent by my own wish in order to avoid adultery?

Time limit for walimah

Q: Please advise whether there is a time limit when a walima needs to be held after a Nikaah.

My brother is making Nikaah and was advised that his Walima must be within 7 days. I live in a seperate house and cannot attend due to national lockdown regulations on movement. We expect regulations to be eased by the end of June, is it impermissible to wait until the end of June?

Give up zina, watching porn and smoking

Q: I am a college student and I offer Salaah daily. I always want to be close to Allah, but I have three bad habits which make me feel very bad and disgraced. These are 1. Smoking. 2. Watching porn (seldom). 3. Doing sex (seldom). These make me feel very bad and I don't know how to get rid of them. I will be very thankful to you if you could please help me.