Nikaah & Marriage Issues

The rights of the husband and wife

Q: I have heard some saying including few scholars saying that a husband's rights over his wife are greater than her rights over him. Is that true and why/why not? I am finding this saying a bit strange because in the Quran it says that wives have similar rights over their husbands to what is reasonable. Islam teaches that both have equal rights, some of their rights are identical but some rights are different, and the husband's rights are not more important than the wife's rights, rather both the rights of the husband and wife are of equal importance. Can you please explain, is the saying mentioned above true and if it is true, then why is it true? Because it seems to contradict islamic teachings.

Marrying a Christian

Q: My question is regarding marriage. I wish to marry a devout Christian woman however, her father or any of her family do not approve of me because I am a Muslim. I wish to marry her very soon because of the fear that I may fall into zina. I have taken all precautions and I do not meet with her anymore because I know it is haraam but I am so scared that I will fall into zina. What should I do?

I know that a woman needs a wali and the wali has to be from her religion so I can’t take her to the Islamic centre so that the imam can be her wali can I? Or does she not need a wali since she is independent financially and has her own place and is 45 years old. This woman is very special to me but, I also do not want to fall into sin. If I don’t marry her soon I really think I will fall into zina. please help. (I am from the Hambali mazhab so can you please answer according to this mazhab).

Status of nikaah if a man lied to a girl just to get married to her

Q: If a woman marries a man based on what he told her and later on she finds out that the man was untruthful, meaning he lied about everything just to get her to marry him. Is the nikaah invalid? Especially if he lied about being a practising Muslim which it turned out that he wasn't? Does she need to do iddat even if she only stayed with him for a week and she didn't engage in intercourse because she was on her period with this untruthful man?

Facing the qiblah while being intimate with one's wife

Q:

1. When I am intimate with my wife, we sometimes face the qiblah while kissing, hugging, rolling on bed, etc. But we are nude and we face the qiblah. Though we try to avoid it sometimes. Is is a sin to face the qiblah when nude, whether from the front side or back.

2. Although we know that we should put a sheet over ourselves while being intimate but sometimes knowingly we do it without a sheet and towards the qiblah. Are we sinning? We know that while relieving oneself one should not face the qiblah and we don’t do it while relieving.

Marrying a Shia

Q: I am a Sunni Muslim girl and I got a marriage proposal from a Shia friend of mine. I wanted to know if I can marry him.

Some of the things I would like to mention about him is that his family doesn’t do shirk in a way that they don’t put anyone else at Allah’s place like most of the other Shia’s do.

Secondly, we’ll do the sunni nikaah and my Uncle is an Aalim so he will read our nikaah. They don’t curse or say anything bad to our beloved Hazrat Umar (radhiyallahu anhu), Hazrat Abu Bakar (radhiyallahu anhu) and Hazrat Usman Ghani (radhiyallahu anhu).

Kindly tell me if I can marry him and what conditions should there be if I haven’t mentioned them already here.