Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q: Can a women travel by air after delivering the baby before 40 days?

Q: What is status of nikaah, if it is done without the wali of girl?

Q: Is it safe to use any type of fragrance such as ittar, talcum powders, deodorants and perfumes during pregnancy?

Q: After deliverying a baby, females usually get a daily massage for a few weeks. This includes rubbing the stomach, thighs, back, calfskin etc., how can I get this done without exposing my satr?

Q: I am a Muslim woman who is working and married. My parents have a low financial condition for which I support them even after marriage. I give 30% of my salary to my parents and 70% to my husband. But my husband is now restricting me from giving money to my parents even after knowing their financial condition. What should I do?

My husband wants me to invest my salary in some good schemes so that it will be beneficial for me and my husband in the future. Whom should I listen to because not giving money to my parents will cause them great difficulty in surviving. Would using that money in increasing my wealth be a sin or not?

Q: I am in love with a christian girl, and we plan to marry since she has agreed to convert to Islam. However, her parents want us to get married in a church in order to keep their respect among their community, though they have agreed to let us perform a proper Nikaah after the christian wedding and to let the girl be a practising muslim. Am I allowed to get married in a church just to protect her family from humiliation?

Q: What is the Islamic ruling on dating? Will there be any difference in the ruling if the boy and girl are engaged and intend to get married in the future?

Q: Is it obligatory for the husband to inform his wife before he returns home or can he return unexpectedly, without informing her? Will there be a difference in the ruling in the case where the husband was gone for just a few hours, and the case where he was gone for a prolonged period? Also, is there any Hadith in this regard?

Q: I have read that a man can see the face and hands of a woman he is interested in marrying, if he is permitted by her family.

1. What are the limits of his gaze at her covered parts of body? Can a man gaze at the breasts, hips and buttocks region of her covered body?

2. Is it permissible to look for certain aspects of physical beauty of women one is choosing for nikah?

Q: Which parent has Islaam given the right of making the final decision in regards to the tarbiyat of the child? Which parent has the right to decide as to what the child may eat or not?

NB: Everything is within the sharia. There is no divorce.