Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Hurmat-e-musaaharah

Q: My father died two years ago. I was suddenly touched by my mother and I felt lust. What is the ruling for this?

I am unmarried now. When I get married:

1. Are my children allowed to marry my own brother's/sister's or step sister's children?

2. Can I marry my mother's brother's daughter?

Fear of getting married

Q: My parents want me to get married but I don't want to. I am 22 years old and in all these years I saw horrible fights and extra marital affairs surreal stuff like that and they always blame me for their unsuccessful marriage. I am not mentally stable. I get suicidal at times such that I can't control. If I get married, how can I take care of my children when I can't control myself?

Whenever the topic of marriage comes, it's killing me when I think about all those years of fights. I can't take any sort of torture. I am unable to convince my parents. I instead end up yelling at them which I don't want to. I do read Quran but as soon as something regarding marriage comes up, I get those attacks again. I don't know what to do. How can I get over this situation.

Proxy nikaah

Q: Few months back my brother got married in absence through his representative in the presence of the bride and her father. This was solemnised by the local qazi. No one from family and friends were invited, we did this for visa processing.

I am sure the above nikah is valid, however, please provide reference in light of Qur'an and Hadith.

One of the parents think that the above nikah is not perfect and due to social pressure want to perform it again in front of relatives and friends without informing them about the earlier nikah. Is this allowed?

I'm concerned that we are betraying the guests by not informing them about the earlier nikah. Can we suppress the truth by not informing others and in a way fooling them?

Girl getting married without the happiness of her mother

Q: I would like to know if a hanafi girl has found a suitable partner, such a partner that is a Muslim, one who performs his salaah, he is capable of financially providing for her and fulfills all the requirements of nikaah, however her mother refuses for her to make nikaah to such a boy without any solid and valid excuse, will it be allowed for her to make nikaah to him without the happiness of her mother as the mother is not being reasonable?