Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q: People work hard to earn more money and make their duniya good, is the wife included in duniya or not? 

Q: If my mother forbids me but I almost convince my husband that I will do hijama, then is it permissible for me to do it? I don't live with my husband yet but soon we will be living together and I have an illness which can break our marriage and of course my mother doesn't know about this illness. And I have many other illnesses. So can I go without my mother's permission if my husband gives me permission?

If my husband again forbids me after getting convinced, can I go?

Q: When a person touches a woman and there is no erection, there is only lust and desire in the heart, so can he marry her daughter?

Q: I recently found out that I am pregnant alhamdulilah and read the following on a website:

“During pregnancy frightening pictures of deformed children or animals should not be seen. One should look at beautiful children, flowers and should smell beautiful fragrances.”

I am an occupational therapist and daily interact with those who have various physical and mental disabilities whom I try to help by providing therapy so that they are able to engage in everyday activities independently.

Should I therefore stop working and providing therapy while I am pregnant and will I it affect my baby?

Q: I have some doubts about some sex toys. My wife loves foreplay and for that I bought a love egg vibrator (internal) and a g spot vibrator (partially internal). Now I want to know if thats allowed? Please note that this is not a substitute, it's only for foreplay.

Q: If someones wife says that you don't have Imaan, does it have any effect on his nikaah?

Q: Someone told me that if parents don’t do proper upbringing of children they will be held accountable for it, but everyone is accountable for himself, how do I reconcile between that?

Also if parents are sinful if they don’t teach about a sin to a child and he does it, someone told me that parents won’t be sinful if they don’t directly guide the child to that particular sin, but they will be held accountable for not guiding them. Is it correct?

Q:

1. I want to name my baby boy Imaad Mehboob on the 7th day, would it be right?

2. Can I also perform aqeeqah on the 7th day but perform the khatna and hair shaving later on, would it be right?

3. I have not performed tahneek till now i.e. 5 th day, can I perform it now?

Q: I have heard of a couple who did not have intercourse for the last few years . The wife looks after the house and the children. Can they live togther without having intercource. Is their nikaah valid?

Q: About 7 months ago (the first week of Ramadhan) my wife requsted a divorce, she requested her brother to collect her and asked me to issue a talaq. I refused saying that it was not what I wanted. I requested that I will only abide if she gave me the request in writing, with the reason why she wants the divorce. Until this day I have not received it.

She moved in with her mother, who stays in the same town. Over the next few months I begged her to come back home and each time she refused. I kept on providing for her and he kids and sent her gifts etc., not once did she do the same. She even told me to arrange my own domestic worker to clean our house as she cannot manage to see to the house anymore. After numerous requests for her to please return home as we are still married, she refused.

About 2 months ago, I stopped giving her an allowance as I felt its not fair since she doesn't want to come home. I still provide for the kids what they need. She says its unislamic as I have to still maintain her and her expenses. I have asked her to come home and fulfil her responsibilities which she refuses.

Please advise if I should conitnue giving her money and also, what should I do as she keeps on telling the kids and everyone else that I do not provide for her. I have left the car I bought for her with her and also pay for her fuel, and have not used a cent of her money in our marriage. I pay the kids school fees and give them an allowance as well. I feel since she has chosen to move out and stay with her mother, then her mother should see to her expenses.