Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Equality between wives

Q: My husband has been having an affair with a woman for over 2 years. Recently I gave given birth to our 4th child, the baby is only 2 months old. My other children are still small. She has 3 sons. He says that he wants to make nikah but at times he also seems confused saying that she’s a good friend.

He says that if he does make nikah, he will sign a contract with her stating that he will spend 1 night only with her and give her a fixed amount per month (he will give her less than what he gives me) and that he won’t provide a home for her as she has her own home. He says that he will not be taking care of her children financially. He even says that in the contract he will state that she will have no rights to he’s inheritance. Is all this permissible?

Families delaying marriage

Q: I am in love with a Muslim girl. Both of our families know about us and we always force them to get us married, but they are delaying without reason. I earn more than enough to run a family. Both our families said that they will arrange our marriage in the year 2020.

We want to make it halal by marrying according to Islamic rules. Will our nikaah be valid if we get married without informing our family?

Speaking to a girl's father with regards to nikaah

Q: My friend wants to marry. His mother is a Muslim but not religious and not practising (does not cover herself properly, no 5-time prayer, etc) and even has a boyfriend (she was divorced a while ago). My friend asked me how to approach a girl in university? Obviously, the proper way is through the parents, elders or imams, etc. Actually, I personally also need guidance on this matter. He says "since my mum is not religious, I cannot really approach the girl to speak and deliver my proposal as mum is not interested and would not be really helpful in this matter since she herself is involved in a haram relationship..."

Please, advise us on this topic. How to approach a girl whom you would like to propose? For example, if the girl is with several female friends at university, and they are near but do not hear the conversation between us, is this allowed? Or write something on a paper and give it to her in the presence of her friends (without writing any contact info except phone number just to hear her response, or write in the letter to give it back if she only sees him with friends, just letting her know about the intention to meet with her in front of her mahrams?) How can my friend eventually "catch" a girl at university in this case? I guess parents/elders/imaam will not go to university for this? 

Unknowingly removing a fetus

Q: A few years ago a woman had problems with her menstruation and had alot of pain. She was 2 weeks overdue with her periods. She went to a gynecologist and he gave her some medication for the pain. She took it not knowing that the medication removed a lump of blood. It was the size of her hand. She did not know at that time but she now thinks it could be a featus. She does not know what to do. Because it was flushed down the toilet. Feeling very sad. What is her position regarding the fetus.