Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Husband not fulfilling the wife's desires

Q: I have been married for seven and half years now. I have a child, a son, 6 years of age. I want another child but my husband doesn't seem to be interested at all. He hasn't been trying for a baby or even having any kind of physical contact with me for almost two years. I want to know if its valid for a husband to stay away from his wife for that long? What about the wife's desires? If a woman is restricted to obey her husband and never to say NO, why a husband is not bound to take care of his wife's feelings?

To let you know, there are no bad issues between us, no fights, everything is normal between us. I feel im just here to take care of the house and my kid, I feel I'm a maid not a wife.

Will ilaa take place if husband wants to consummate nikaah after rukhsati?

Q: My question is about ilaa. If a couple is married and rukhsati is not done yet and is due after 5 months and the husband says to wife that he will consummate after rukhsati which is after five months. But the husband does not take any oath just say that he will not do consummation untill rukhsati. Is it ilaa ? Husband and wife have met once after nikah but are still virgin.

Abortion

Q: Please provide me with the ruling regarding the kaffarah and the compensation to heirs that a woman in the situation below would be eligible for:

A surgical abortion was done at 14 weeks (90 days) without the knowledge of her husband. The woman is now overcome by guilt and wants to repent.

Marrying a Christian

Q: I've been working in corporate company for a few years, and have met a girl there. We both really like each other. She however, isn't Muslim. She's a Christian. She really has a great relationship with God. But, she doesn't have intention of converting - even though she's considered it a number of times.

Her ideal way of raising our children up would be to teach them both religions, and focus on their similarities. I will also always put Islam first, but, if this is allowed, I really don't want to let go of this girl. We really get along well, she's intellectual, she's a few years younger than I am, and we both love talking about religion and life in general. Similar interests. Please advise me as to what to do.