Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q: I met a female through social media which I think is a Jew or Christian. I told her that you are my sister and she spoke to me several times.

One day she told me that she had baby. I was puzzled because she never told me before that she was married. I ask her whereabouts of her husband and she revealed very a shocking story.

A Muslim person from my place met her several times and that person was telling her that he is spiritual guide and pious in all ways and she came under his influence. That person had a physical relationship with her several times. I asked her whether he did nikah as per sharia or not and she told me that he said that this is a blessed spiritual marriage. I was shocked to hear about how a Muslim can cross the lines that's well defined in Quran and Sunnat.

She further revealed that when she got pregnant, he refused to accept that it's her baby and he is the father of the child. She left that person and gave birth to that child.

I take note of this and started searching for that person. I was further shocked that he was already married and had two sons and he is from a well reputed family. I contacted again that lady and she told me that she was aware of that he is already married but she never expected that he will leave her after pregnancy. She said that she ask him to marry her as per Islamic laws but he denied.

What is the solution to this issue? The baby is already born and she is taking care of that baby.

What laws of punishment will apply to that person according to sharia law?

If somehow I put pressure on that person to marry this lady, is this allowed and shall it be recognized according to sharia law?

As far as I read in hadiths, stoning till death is the only punishment for such a sin.

Q: Can a father refuse to pay nafaqah (child support) for his child if his ex wife denies him access to his child?

Q: One of my colleagues converted to Islam but she is married to a Christian, and her husband did not agree to convert. So since her husband did not agree to convert, after how many months is she able to get married again to a Muslim man?

Q: I want to find out if A and B are invited to a wedding or walima and have to Rsvp. They Rsvp but in their place C and D go. Is it correct if C and D go without asking the host. Or do u have to take permission from the host to take another person in your place.

Q: I miss my mother alot. My husband, due to his issues with extended family, is living in the same house and does not take me to visit my mother. He does not allow me to stay with her. He is keeping me away from my mother. I don't feel loved here and I am trying to build relations here but my mother is also very sickly and she misses me as well.

I know that I have to obey my husband but it gets very tough as he goes to his mother house whenever he wants and sometimes I'm alone and get depressed. He visits his parents for about 3 days in a week. He does allow my mum to come over but she is not very comfortable. Please advise me. 

Q: In sha Allah I'll be getting married to a girl I love 2 days from now. We did not date or hangout because we knew it was haraam. We got our families in touch and they have agreed to marry us. However my mother decided that I am not ready to bring her home because I am not that financially strong. (I live in Pakistan, I make 2000 USD a month, I am 23, I am quite well off compared to everyone my age and a huge percentage of adults).

They also said that we can't bring the girl home unless I pay 25000 USD for a grand event. The standard 3 day wedding in our country.

I really need your guidance as to what I should do. I love this girl and I want to hang out with her. My mother says that I can't even hang out with her after nikkah. And I should wait one year to bring her home and then meet her. This all sounds and feels so stupid and painful. My mother has no real logical reason to do this. Please tell me what to do? I'm already working so hard and did my best to always stay halaal.

Q: If someone doesn't want to get married. Will their parents be sinful for this?

Q: I have a question about engagement functions. Is it halaal or haraam?

Q: My husband and I have been married for 35 years. For years now things haven't been good between us. He had several extramarital affairs and treats me disrepectfully. We kept on trying but it's not working. I keep worrying what will happen if I pass away. I have 4 adult children, 2 of whom live at home and are financially dependant on us.

Previously when I made enquiries I was told that in the case of divorce, my husband would get half of my pension. I worked for 27 years and put all my money in helping him provide for our family. Alhamdulillah, we're married in CoP. For me the worry is what would happen to my children as my son is 32 and has a mental health diagnosis and my daughter is unmarried, pregnant & still studying. Giving away half of my pension would be a knock financially.

I would like to have our civil marriage dissolved but remain married Islamically, at least until I feel I can manage that as well. I know I should have divorced him years ago but I kept hoping he would mend his ways but unfortunately things have become worse over time. I would want him to get some money from my pension so he can at least set himself up with a place to stay but definitely not 50%. He's previously said we should keep the house. He doesn't have a pension benefit. Would getting a legal divorce mean we're divorced according to Shariah automatically? We are South African and follow the Hanafi madhab. 

Q:

1. Is intercourse during periods haraam?

2. Can it be done using condoms?