Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q: I have taken a second wife - but before I had married her we had an agreement in place that I will not stay every second night with her. Now she is demanding that right. She is a revert. She said that she didn’t know how hard it was going to be a second wife. She knew from the beginning the Islamic laws of 2nd wife.

Is she valid in her argument and can she change her mind and do I have to now fulfill her right?

Q: Will hurmate-musaaharat be established between mother and son if the mother is divorced and married to some other person (who is not the father of this son) and the son is not married.

Q:

1. Person A tells person B, “I will appoint a wakeel on behalf of you who will marry you to me”. Person A agrees. Later the wakeel marries person A with person B in presence of two witnesses. Is the marriage valid?

2. Amatullah comes to know that Zaid married her with Abdullah in presence of two witnesses. But she did not appoint Zaid as her wakeel. Hearing this, Amatullah did not say a word but accepted the marriage in her heart and started treating Abdullah as her husband. Is the marriage valid between them?

Q: If the husband tells his wife, “Do not ask this from Allah Ta'ala in dua.” But the wife really wants to ask that from Allah Ta'ala. If she makes the dua, will she be sinning? It is a halal dua.

Q: Can a wife refuse her husband from having relations with her due to being very tired and in need of sleep?

Q: A proposal has come for me but my parents are not calling them so that they can come to our home. They are waiting for their call. Meanwhile, they are signing me up for an online university. As I’m unmarried, I have alot of thoughts about marriage and I cannot stop thinking about it to the point that any mention of marriage makes me feel sad that I’m not part of this union with someone.

What should I pray to Allah (Subhanahu wa Ta’ala) for? For the best solution, whether it is marriage or studying online, or should I beg Him for a good spouse?

Q: Is it permissible to go for honeymoon?

Q: Islam tells us to marry when a boy or girl becomes mature, age 12-13. But according to science, if a girl marries at 12-13 and becomes pregnant then she has to face problems like losing the new born baby, decrease in her growth of height, sugar problems, high BP, etc .

So in these cases, can we delay the marriage till the girl or boy is 19 years?

In previous days, in the 18th century and before that, did it also happen that they used to marry young and these problems had taken place (decrease in height, high BP, high sugar, risk of death, etc.).

Q: Can a couple avoid having children if they know that they will not be able to give the child a proper deeni upbringing and also because of the fitnah around in that place?

Q:

1. If a female conceived a baby from her illegal relationship before nikaah and married the same male afterwards, will the nikaah be valid one?

Does it have to be repeated?

2. If the conceived female married another male instead of the actual father of the fetus (hiding the matter), will the nikaah with the pregnant female be valid?