Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q: My son was breastfed by a particular woman. Is that woman now my mahram?

Q: If a woman gets divorced, keeps it a secret, and then gets married again secretly. Her second marriage is done without her guardian but in the presence of two witnesses and it is not announced.

After some time, she reveals this secret only to her children. They keeps this secret for almost 8-9 years because the children are afraid and their parents constantly tell them to hide it. After those years of stress and frustration, their children reveal all this.

I have heard somewhere that hiding your marriage is actually commiting zina. I want to know if the couple is subjected to the hadd punishment and this includes her children too as they were hiding too all this time although they did not want to?

Q: I live with my husband, son and my elder brother in law. He is soon to be getting married insha Allah. I don’t want to live with him. I am trying to convince my husband to take some other place as I want some privacy and peace. It is haram by asking that ? Or am I a bad person just by putting my priorities my family’s happiness?

Whenever we discuss about this, initially my husband kept quit and then he used to say, yes we will see to it, but now he is forcing me and telling me I should live were he wants me to and if I want to shift to some other place leaving his brother then even I should stop all my contacts with my family. I don’t feel comfortable living with my brother in law. Is it a gunah for asking this to my husband? Please help me out.

Q: Can I marry my paternal uncle's son? His paternal grandfather and my paternal grandfather are full brothers. His father is elder to my father and is my paternal uncle. Is this marriage acceptable according to Islam?

Q:

1. Is it recommended or even mandatory that the woman orgasms during a sexual relationship with her husband.

2. If the husband has reached orgasm, is it mandatory or recommended to wait until the woman has her orgasm and then stop the sexual relationship.

3. For me, once I reach my orgasm (the sperm is out) I cannot continue the sexual activity, but my wife tells me that it is her right to have an orgasm also. The result is that all these words and attitudes have broken the desire for my wife. I do not want to touch my wife because I have a disgust in me. I have the impression that the roles are reversed, although I have always been indulgent in sex with my wife.

All the more her sexual appetite is much greater than mine, please advise us.

Q: I'm really worried if I committed a sin. Yesterday when I was doing foreplay with my wife, I tried fingering and I saw a little pinkish color on my finger. My wife immediately went to the washroom and checked whether her periods started or not. She confirmed that her periods haven't started so I had sex with her the same night. But today her periods started. I'm worried whether that pinkish color was period blood. Had I committed a sin. Please tell me what I have to do.

Q: I touched a woman with lust sometime ago and I now wish to marry her daughter. Is it permissible for me to marry her daughter, or is hurmat-e-musaaharah established due to the touching? Can you explain to me, does hurmat-e-musaaharah become established by merely touching a woman with lust or is it necessary for one to have an erection? Further, what is the sign of lust in a male and female?

Q: I would like to know if I could talk to a non mahram for the purpose of a secret marriage as my first wife will not agree to my 2nd marriage and is asking for a divorce if I marry a 2nd wife so hence i am considering a 2nd marriage.

Q: Is it permissible for a lady to only agree to marry a man if he accepts that he will not get second wife?

Q: From the start of my early life I had never been focused on any aim and still now I am regretting it why I am not clear about my aim. I am feeling like a burden on this earth. I never wanted to be engaged before marriage. After my BS honors I got engaged, to whom I got engaged he is totally of a different chemistry life style. He always wanted to be bold in our relationship whereas I believed in intimacy after marriage.

A lot of misunderstandings and quarrels occurred between us. Just before nikah, I was totally blamed for not being expressive in showing my feelings or whatever. He always wanted a bold relationship, bold talks whereas I denied it just because I knew its not allowed in Islam. To save this relationship and respect of my parents I totally vanished my personality, my own resemblance. I have done my mphill but still I feel nothing to myself.

Why every time girls have to shut their mind soul and feelings even after nikah (rukhsti is in coming Nov) he wants to have full intimacy. I know it is allowed after nikah when he come to visit me but I want to have all this after rukhsati.