Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q: If you imagine an actor, actress, or singer nude without any sexual feeling and without any sexual attraction. In other words you don't have any sexual intention or feelings towards them. You don't have any intention to insult or disrespect them but you think with your mind, how would x actor/actress or singer look like if he/she was nude. Are you considered to have insulted him/her? Are you considered to have disrespected her/him? Are you considered to have done an injustice to her/him?

Is this similar to insulting your schoolmates with dirty words? Is this similar to disrespecting your schoolmates by insulting and offending them and saying bad things about them? Will you pay anything to them on the day of judgment based on the Hadith that says that their good deeds will be given to the ones they have done injustices.

Q: Is that person sinful who does not marry in this world if he/she does not find someone as relgious and God fearing as him/her in this world and wants to remain unmarried to marry somone very pious/God fearing in the Hereafter because a more religious/God fearing person will have better rewards in Paradise and would share them with his/her partner.

Q: I'm staying in South Africa. Can I change my father's name just for making papers in South Africa?

Q: I am a Sunni sect lady in her mid forties and had been married to an Ahmaddiyay Sect man in his late fifties. I have a son of 7 years out of the wedlock. My parents were not aware of my husband's sect whereas I was told two days before the marriage, but was ignorant of the difference in the sect. So taking the liberal side, I went ahead with it.

My husband does not earn at all, infact, he sits back home and I run around for supporting the house and making ends meet. He has never invested a single Rupee, either on my son nor on myself and to top all, he abuses me mentally by taunting and passing negative remarks on my deceased parents and siblings, as well as been physical too.

Two days back he had not only slapped and tried to strangulate me but also hit me on my head and I had to be rushed to the hospital for a bleeding cut and my son witnessed all this and was terrified. For the first time after 10 years of marriage I had disclosed about my husband's sect with my youngest brother who is in his late thirties and quite influential on Islamic clauses and he wants me to break the nikkah as its not lawful especially in the light of the Ahmaddiya fact.

I had earlier several times tried to disclose with my parents but did not gain confidence to share the same and both of them are no longer with us. Please tell me where do I stand? 

Q: If you see the signs of the curse of Allah Ta'ala on someone where they are unable to make duaa and you know he isn't a good person but hides it and pretends, what do the teachings say in breaking up his marriage and removing the wife from this ordeal?

Q: 2 years ago I married a Muslim distant relative of mine in the presence of 2 adult male Muslim witnesses (my uncles) and my older sister, in front of the imam and court lawyer that prepared our official marriage contract.

My marriage took place without my fathers permission and he was not aware of my marriage until recently. My father has forgiven me and is now accepting my marriage.

I had married my fathers nephew from his cousins side. My father always wished to make him his son in law but after a family dispute my father wanted nothing to do with his family anymore.

Me and my husband live in different countries. When we visit my parents home country we would stay with my fathers relatives. So that is how me and my now husband developed feelings for each other and we wanted to make our relationship halal especially before I went back home. We wanted to make sure our communication with each other going forward would be halal. He is a religious man and that is the main reason why I wanted to be married to him.

After the family dispute, my sister and I were still living in the house of my fathers relatives under the supervision of my aunt and uncles. My father and mother had chose to live in another house until we returned to USA. Me and my husband both wanted to get married and consulted with our uncle and then peformed our nikaah the following day.

Since that day I have never doubted that my marriage was invalid because to my knowledge witnesses have to be present for the marriage to be valid. Recently some relatives of mine were showing me hadiths that claim that a woman that gets married without her guardians permission, her marriage is invalid.

Me and my husband both fear Allah and want to know for sure if our marriage is indeed valid or not. Is the marriage valid because I had 2 male witnesses. Was my marriage not valid because I did not ask for my fathers permission prior to preforming the nikaah. Would the marriage be valid now because my father is accepting my marriage and is please with my husband and communicating with his family once again. Would I have to perform a remarriage to have a valid marriage? 

Q: A man and a woman were having an affair about 3 years back. They later got separated because the man was already married and he refused to marry her. Now, almost one year after their separation, the parents of that woman were pressurizing her to get married somewhere else. She started insisting that she wants that man to marry her. When he said no, she threatened him that she would commit suicide or accuse him of rape (which is very conveniently possible in my country) or defame him if he did not marry her.

To avoid this situation this man contacted a local imam and asked him to perform his "dummy" marriage with that woman so that she may be convinced. They both went to the masjid and got married accordingly. They got a nikahnama on which both of them had signed but the man did not signed correctly as he did not want to marry her. Mehr was mentioned in the nikahnama but was never given. No Quranic aayaat or kalimah were read and no process as mentioned in the Quran was followed. The witnesses and audience signed but they were paid for to sign. 

Also, the date mentioned on the nikahnama was manipulated to show that they got married way back in 2016. The woman was not able to guess that it was not a true marriage as she has embraced Islam for this marriage and is new in Islam. The date was manipulated on her saying only to justify the haraam acts done by them in the past.

Now the parents of the woman came to know about this marriage and things went out of control. The woman is still in her parent's house. No one from either side wants them to stay married and even the man does not want her as his wife.

1. Is their marriage valid or null and void?

2. If their marriage is valid, and the parents of the woman and the man did not want to remain in that marriage, is the man required to divorce the woman?

3. What about mehr?

Q: What is the ruling if a man refuses to have relations with his wife despite her begging him for months on end and the wife ends up masturbating to prevent committing zina?

Q: How much should someone love his wife?

Q: Some people say that nikah should not be performed in between the months of the two eids, i.e. the months between eid ul fiter and eid ul adha. Is there any basis for this in shariah?