Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q: I got married 9 years ago, when I was baaligh. I did a court marriage to protect myself from sins, in Pakistan. During our nikaah we had 2 male witnesses, molvi judge and Surah Al Nisa was recited and dua was made and we both consented with heart.

As per constitution of Pakistan (Islamic country) nikah is valid. But there was no wali present or consented at the time of nikah. As I didn't inform anyone as I knew they will not agree. Neither I knew that a wali is mandatory at that time nor my husband knew, neither did the molvi who did the nikaah told that to us. He was also a nikah registrar.

Soon after my nikaah, within a month my family came to know about my nikaah. Initially there was hype then they agreed and my father sent me back to his house in multan. Then after some time my rukshati was also done with my elder sister (married to his elder brother).

I was an ignorant Muslim at thay time. Now since 1 year I have changed a lot and reverted to Allah and I fear Him for all my sins. I have around a 5 years old son too. Today I saw videos on YouTube telling me that "No nikaah is valid without a wali - and a woman that does her own nikaah is zaani". I see different sects groups and fatwas, some hanafi says nikaah is valid, some says wali is not required, while others say nikaah is not valid, without a wali.

Q: The copper coil/IUD works mainly by killing sperm, preventing an egg being fertilized. But there is a chance of fertilization occurring, in which case the IUD also works by expelling this fertilized egg from the womb so it cannot implant and therefore pregnancy cannot occur. The women in most cases will not know if fertilization has occurred.

If there is a chance of this happening, even though it is a very small chance, is this considered abortion and therefore is the IUD haram?

Q: I am young. I am physically and sexually fit. I do my hard exercises on a daily basis. I have a job and I earn (halaal). I try to give most of my time in worship. Now, the matter is that I don't want to marry, I just want to live my life as single till death. What should I do?

Q: If a man kisses his cousin's daughter with lust.

1. Are their children allowed to marry each other? The girl married another man and the man (who touched or kissed her) married another woman.

2. Will this nullify their parents marriage?

Q: Alhamdulillah, twelve years back, I got married. At the time of marriage my intention was not to take any jahez (dowry) but one of my parents asked for basic materials like bed, furniture, house hold items (not big items). My intention is now to return the amount spent on those items to my father-in-law. 

My question is: Can I give my father-in-law the suitable amount? Shall I ask my parents about this? Or is it not required because the above items will be the milkiyat (owner) of my wife?

Q: My question is regarding marrying a girl that has been adopted at the age of 5 days but the girl doesn't know about her real father. All the documents supporting her parentage is of her adopted father. So please let me know what Shariah says about marrying her?

Q: If someone is 9 or 10 years old and they touch their mother's private part with lust, will it cause hurmat-e-musaaharah?

Q: In some cultures, nowadays, parents tend to hide or cover a hadith or some Islamic knowledge from their children. They say that it’s something you’ll need to know when you grow up – as in when you get married. Should children – after puberty, at least – not have full knowledge about Islam before marriage? For example, there are ahaadith relating to zina. There’s knowledge about sexual intercourse, about pregnancy, about masturbation, etc. which most children do not know about; unless they’re very curious and tend to look up themselves, which causes further sins, i.e pornography.

Children would not know that masturbation is haraam unless it’s told to them. Masturbation is so common during youth, and children are not aware of the fact that it’s haraam, or if you did it, you have to do ghusl prior to praying. Should a woman/man tell their children about sexual intercourse right before the day of marriage, as this would cause fear in the heart of a young girl just before marriage? I heard a father telling their daughters about this hadith but only up till كَذَا وَكَذَا i.e. he left out the last 2 words, كُلُّ عَيْنٍ زَانِيَةٌ وَالْمَرْأَةُ إِذَا اسْتَعْطَرَتْ فَمَرَّتْ بِالْمَجْلِسِ فَهِيَ كَذَا وَكَذَا يَعْنِي زَانِيَةً Was this right of him to do so?

Also, women don’t allow their children to read full Islamic books, written by great people, like Bahishti Zewar written by Ashraf Ali Thanwi (rahmatullahi 'alaihi). They just let them read what they think is important for the “kids” to know, and leave out the “adult” chapters, even in the daily Ta’leem. Parents are oblivious of the fact that children are aware of everything they are aware of. Since nowadays, kids learn everything from their Biology textbooks and that, too, in detail—Isn’t it better that parents give them that knowledge by letting them read Islamic books, or by informing them of various sins i.e. as in what’s adultery, etc.?

Q: If one has sexual intercourse during haidh, and the blood is red then 4.364g in gold has to be given. To who must this penalty be paid and under what (sadaqah)?

Q: It is permissible to kiss sexual parts by using a plastic bag?