Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q: During childhood a woman committed sins. The sin was that the woman, who, in her childhood was a girl, rubbed her private parts on another girls private parts. The woman doesnt think she had underwear on when this happened but the other girl had underwear on. This sin happened either when she was 12 or under the age of 12. It happened before the age of puberty as she got her periods when she was 14. As she matured she realised that was a homosexual act and it was wrong.

The woman is married to a a good man, who has never done such sins in his past. and the woman has recently been getting doubts upon repentence. She read somewhere that if one doesn't repent for such sins or sexual sins before marriage then marriage to a person who has not done such sins in the past or marriage to a chaste person is haraam and not valid.

Was the marriage valid from the start? Was it haram to marry such a person who has committed such sins in the past when the other hasn't?

Q:

1. Is the khutbah mandatory for nikaah

2. Can any one do his nikaah by himself

Q: How do you share food for your wives when one's children are more than the others. For example, if the first wife has 4 children and the second wife has 8 children and the third has 6 children; is sharing the same quantity for them justice?

Q:

1. What is the private part of a female that by looking at it hurmat can take place?

2. If a woman is wearing full clothes in a picture or in real life and someone unintentionally looks at her chest and lowers his gaze, and her cleavage is slightly shown, like a very small part of her cleavage, just few milimeters. Does this form part of a females body where hurmat can take place? Even if the person has no lust for her?

3. If a person has shaken hands with an old lady and he is 100 percent sure that there was no desire or lust at that time but he is having waswasa. Should he pay attention or disregard this thought?

Q: Is pornography a Dajjaal system?

Q: If a person has a stomach issue, when he eats spicy or high calories foods, he gets some white drops coming out from his penis in a normal state without any errection or lust. Now if he shakes hands with an old woman without any lust or erection, will this be hurmat?

Please note that there is no lust or erection for this old lady. The person has a stomach heat problem because of which he gets these drops when he eats spicy food.

Q: Please advise if a man touches or kisses his stepdaughter then what is the ruling in Islam?

Q:

1. What is the ruling on doing an engagement party? Is it permissible in Islam?

2. Is it permissible to attend an engagement party if there is no music and ring exchange ceremony and it is just a party?

Q: If a boy is masturbating and during masturbation he imagines a woman in his mind and he did not touch that woman with lust. So would this man be allowed to marry that woman's daughter?