Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q: About 7 months ago (the first week of Ramadhan) my wife requsted a divorce, she requested her brother to collect her and asked me to issue a talaq. I refused saying that it was not what I wanted. I requested that I will only abide if she gave me the request in writing, with the reason why she wants the divorce. Until this day I have not received it.

She moved in with her mother, who stays in the same town. Over the next few months I begged her to come back home and each time she refused. I kept on providing for her and he kids and sent her gifts etc., not once did she do the same. She even told me to arrange my own domestic worker to clean our house as she cannot manage to see to the house anymore. After numerous requests for her to please return home as we are still married, she refused.

About 2 months ago, I stopped giving her an allowance as I felt its not fair since she doesn't want to come home. I still provide for the kids what they need. She says its unislamic as I have to still maintain her and her expenses. I have asked her to come home and fulfil her responsibilities which she refuses.

Please advise if I should conitnue giving her money and also, what should I do as she keeps on telling the kids and everyone else that I do not provide for her. I have left the car I bought for her with her and also pay for her fuel, and have not used a cent of her money in our marriage. I pay the kids school fees and give them an allowance as well. I feel since she has chosen to move out and stay with her mother, then her mother should see to her expenses.

Q: If a husband stops sleeping with his wife but the wife never wanted this, who will be questionable in the court of Allah?

Every time he does this, his wife told him that she doesnt like sleeping separately. It’s been many weeks and situation is the same.

Q: If a person touches a woman intentionally but there is no lust before and after, is hurmat-e-musaaharah established?

If a person touches a woman intentionally but there is no lust, can he marry her daughter?

Q: My husband has been having an affair with a woman for over 2 years. Recently I gave given birth to our 4th child, the baby is only 2 months old. My other children are still small. She has 3 sons. He says that he wants to make nikah but at times he also seems confused saying that she’s a good friend.

He says that if he does make nikah, he will sign a contract with her stating that he will spend 1 night only with her and give her a fixed amount per month (he will give her less than what he gives me) and that he won’t provide a home for her as she has her own home. He says that he will not be taking care of her children financially. He even says that in the contract he will state that she will have no rights to he’s inheritance. Is all this permissible?

Q: I am in love with a Muslim girl. Both of our families know about us and we always force them to get us married, but they are delaying without reason. I earn more than enough to run a family. Both our families said that they will arrange our marriage in the year 2020.

We want to make it halal by marrying according to Islamic rules. Will our nikaah be valid if we get married without informing our family?

Q: My wife delivered a child 2.5 months ago. Her period has not started yet. We had sex last night but we cant take any precautions like using condom, etc. If sperm enters her vagina by mistake, is there any chance of her falling pregnant again?

Q: Is it permissible to marry ones mother's brother's wife once he has passed away?

Q: My friend wants to marry. His mother is a Muslim but not religious and not practising (does not cover herself properly, no 5-time prayer, etc) and even has a boyfriend (she was divorced a while ago). My friend asked me how to approach a girl in university? Obviously, the proper way is through the parents, elders or imams, etc. Actually, I personally also need guidance on this matter. He says "since my mum is not religious, I cannot really approach the girl to speak and deliver my proposal as mum is not interested and would not be really helpful in this matter since she herself is involved in a haram relationship..."

Please, advise us on this topic. How to approach a girl whom you would like to propose? For example, if the girl is with several female friends at university, and they are near but do not hear the conversation between us, is this allowed? Or write something on a paper and give it to her in the presence of her friends (without writing any contact info except phone number just to hear her response, or write in the letter to give it back if she only sees him with friends, just letting her know about the intention to meet with her in front of her mahrams?) How can my friend eventually "catch" a girl at university in this case? I guess parents/elders/imaam will not go to university for this? 

Q: Can you help me on which date our marriage should be done in this month. I want to know the dates on which marriage can be done according to Islamic calender?

Q: If the parents fail to do proper upbringing of their children, like they fail to tell him that music is haram (but they did not guide him to listen to music), will they get the sin too if their child listens to music?