Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q: I know a man in our neighbour who is married twice. He divorced his first wife and has a daughter from her who is living with him not with her mother. And from the second wife he has a daughter too. But he does clear injustice between his daughters in many ways.

On social media he always posts pictures of his daughter from his current wife and never mentions the elder daughter. I know that girl is hurt by the deeds of her own father. And instead of asking her father, people ask that girl why your father does not post pics or mention you, why does he not care about you? She is always bullied by the people. What do you say about that man and will the poor girl be rewarded in the Aakhirah due to her sabar? 

Q: I'm a doctor by profession and inshallah a child specialist very soon... I am 29 years old... My father wants me to marry his nephew who is a laboratary technician and works in a lab... I personally don't want to marry him because I want that someone should be of my rank at least, other wise my friends and others will make fun of me.

Now, my father is insisting on his point of view for the last 10 years... He rejects proposals from outside and my parents continuously force that my cousins proposal is a good proposal... They say that If I marry out of the family then I will suffer a lot... The boy can beat me and send me home.

I'm stuck between not to marrying my cousin and the fear of marrying intp an unknown family. I want to ask whether I should do as my parents my parents say as they are old and in depression? They even curse me that I am the reason behind their distress and suffering and if I will not follow their wish, I will never be happy. Please guide me.

Q: I want to marry a Christian lady who is ready to convert to Islam. However, she has two young kids aged, 2 yrs and 4 yrs. The kids, as she told me, were born out of wedlock. What does Mufi saheb say in light of Qur'an and Sunnah about marrying a lady described above and what will be the relationship between me and kids?

Q: I was married 6 years ago and knew that my husband belongs to Qadiani sect but due to lack of knowledge of their belief, I agreed for this proposal. After marriage they started taking me to their jamaat and majlis on festivals for salah. However, last year I came to know about their belief and decided to separate from him.

I left him and stayed with my parents for 2 months but then my husband claimed that he doesn't believe in Mirza Ghulam Ahmed and he is ahle sunnah. My parents strictly told him not to take me to their jamaat or majlis and he promised neither he will attend their majlis nor he will force me to go. But after coming back to him, he and his mother again forced me to go to their mosque, pray Eid salah with them and meet their relatives which I negelcted, resulting my husband got angry and didn't pray eid salah, he even left home on EID.

I am always forced to meet their people and maintain relationship with them and when I neglect to meet them, he asks me not to meet my people as well, and he stopped meeting my family members. I still have doubt that he lied to me to save our marriage, as when his mother talks about their belief, he listens to her and doesn't utter a single word.

He is neither regular in salah, nor he fasts, nor he follows Sunnah. He even doesn't let me cover my face when I go out with him, if I go to learn Quran or Arabic, he doubts me.

I am in a big dilemma if I took the right decision to come back to him or not. It's been more than 6 months that I am seeing warning messages in dream as I am a part of Kufr and I will be punished. Even after coming back to him, I dreamt that Allah SWT has guided me but I neglected so I will be punished now.

If I ask him for Khula, he cries badly that he loves me more than anything and I am ditching him. I feel guilty at that point of time that I am spoiling his life, he is under stress because of this.

We don't have any relation as well since long, as I feel myself a sinner, a fornicator. I always think what if this marriage is void and I am with him, I might become an adulterer.

Please advice me, what shall I do? If I leave him and he is hurt, will I be a sinner in the eyes of Allah SWT for ditching him? I do Istikhara and I get a negative feeling of being with these people, even in Quran, related verses keep coming infront of me, even if I read something online such topics, vidoes come infront of me as Allah is continuously guiding me and I am neglecting it.

Q: I would like to know if its permissible for me and my kids to stay over at my dads home.

When we go over, we are catered to halaal food and we are allowed to practice our religion and they don't force us against our beliefs, alhumdulillah.

When we didnt have any job, I was allowed to stay over at my parents home for 6 months. Now that we are living on our own, my in laws feel that it's not right for me to stay at my parents home.

I need clarification as I feel hurt because how can it be not right to stay for 2 weeks there but it's ok to stay 6 months there when my husband didnt have a job. 

Q: If a Muslim man and woman get married according to Islamic law , then afterwards by the urging of the husband and the non Muslim family members, they perform a second marriage ceremony under Christian laws at a church ,where does this leave them according to islam?. Are they still lawfully married ? , and are they still Muslim?

Q: Would a couple be responsible if they don't know that another person has impacted their marriage? For example, (may Allah protect us all from this) if a daughter touched her father with lust but neither her father or mother know about this, would they be responsible? Would the daughter be sinning if she doesn't tell them as it could have disastrous impact on the family? Would her parents be sinning as they don't know? 

Q: A generic question about "hurmat e musahara". I know lust is defined as the erection of the penis. Does slight movement in the penis, similar to what happens during kegel also cause hurmat e musahara when erection does not properly occur/no full erection occurs. I get anxiety and I'm scared. I'm more or less certain that I've never had a proper erection while touching my mother, but at the same time I'm scared of slight movements in the penis that may have occurred in the past - movements that may have occured due to my mental condition. Especially since the idea of potentially negatively impacting my parents is often on my mind when any physical contact occurs with my mother. A slightly detailed and clear answer on this issue could make the matter clearer to me as often I'm not sure what constitutes lust and it makes the matter tough for me. I'd like to think that I do not in any way want to engage in intercourse with my mother and the idea is reprehensible to me. It's after I started reading fatwa on these that these thoughts have significantly started bothering me. 

Q:

1. I would like to know if having a khatam (before a wedding) with lunch and tea, inviting families and friends is allowed in Islam?

2. And also a "mehndi function"

Q:

1. Is it permissible for first wife to stop her husband from second marriage.

2. If husband goes for second marriage without his first wife and parents consent, what are the rulings in Islam?

3. Also it is allowed/right for parents to stop their son from doing second marriage or pressurizing son to divorce his second wife.