Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Nikaah performed in jest in the presence of witnesses

Q: I am writing anonymously on behalf of my friend, who seeks guidance regarding a sensitive matter. 

Two years ago, when she was around 14–15 years old and her partner was 15–16, they performed a nikah with witnesses present. It began as a joke for their 4-month anniversary, but the full nikah words were said in front of 3 witnesses: 

The friend asked: “Do you, [his full name], take [her full name] as your wife?” and vice versa 

He replied: “Yes, I take [her full name] as my wife.” 

She also said: “I take [his full name] as my husband.” 

At the time, they did not fully understand the seriousness of their actions. They later consummated the marriage when she was almost 16 and he was almost 17, still unaware that it counted as a valid nikah. 

Now, she realized the marriage may be considered valid in Islam, but she is unsure how to handle the situation given their young ages at the time, the accidental nature of the nikah. 

They seek guidance on: 

1. The Islamic validity of the nikah given their ages and circumstances at the time. 

2. How to properly formalize or rectify any steps (including mahr, witnesses, or scholarly confirmation). 

3. The correct way to proceed if they wish to continue the marriage safely and according to Islamic law. 

Your advice would be greatly appreciated so that everything can be handled properly and responsibly.

Muslim lawyer doing work for a gay or lesbian

Q: 

1. A lesbian woman approaches a Muslim notary to draw up an Antenuptial contract for a civil union with another woman. 

2. A person who is openly gay/lesbian approaches a Muslim lawyer to do work for them. The work doesn't have to do with the client being gay/lesbian. It is normal legal work. 

In either of these scenarios, is it permissible for the notary/lawyer to do the work?

Husband asking the wife to pay towards purchasing the child's nappies

Q: My son is 3 years 5 months. My husband is telling me to potty train for few months. I am not training him due to the fact that I trained my first one at this age and he messed napaak everywhere.  I told my husband I will try this month to train him and he told me if his not trained then I will have to pay a portion for his nappies. I feel very hurt as he buys vape and uses which is a high expense too. I want to know is this Islamically correct for him to tell me that I should contribute?

Receiving talaaq from the "second husband" while still in the first husband's nikaah

Q: A man had previously asked me to marry him in the presence of two witnesses and I said yes. This was years ago. 

My husband currently went through my phone and saw a chat regarding this marriage. He asked me about it which I said it was invalid as it was not conducted with a wali. My husband said it is valid. After having checked a Muslim girl can marry herself without a Wali. 

My husband promised marriage to me again if I take a talaq from the previous boy which I did and then he, my current husband will make a new nikkah. 

After doing all of this, all of a sudden my husband current gave me a third talaq. Now we are in a dilemma as to whether I can make nikkah with my second husband again as his nikkah with me was not valid.

Nikaah with a woman who is still in her first husband's nikaah

Q: I recently got married but we are now finding out that the girl did not get talaq from her first husband and the girl relied on a civil divorce to constitute the talaaq. 

The first husband of this girl says he didn't institute talaaq and the civil divorce was only for the courts. 

The second nikah has taken place before we found out. Is it valid?