Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q: I am married for seven years and have two kids aged 5 years and one eleven months old daughter. Whenever I seek intercourse from my wife, she declines me nine out of ten times, because she is either busy, she is tired most of the times, she is not well and that she has to take care of the children (these are the reasons according to her) and I am left being frustrated and when this kind of reasons are given I cannot oppose it and ask her forcefully. Sometimes we have intercourse just once in many weeks. I do not know what to do about this situation because it creates lots of frustration sometimes. Please help me with this. Also my wife feels that two children are enough where as I do want another child. She has refused me and have warned me as well to go leave her if I want another child. What I can do is in this situation to convince her?

Q: Please advise: I am a 25 year old female and feel that I am ready for marriage. My parents have been looking for a suitable spouse for me. So far I have had boys (who were suggested my family members/family friends) come home to propose but it did not go further because both I and my family felt that the boy and I were not compatible. An old friend (female) recently contacted me through Facebook and said that her cousin (who went to the same school as me -7 years ago) is ready for marriage and would like to contact my parents. I am aware of the fitna of social media and have been very careful about how I use it. I do not post any pictures of myself so I am certain that this is not the reason that her cousin would like to speak to my parents. Would you advise that I give this friend my parents' contact details? Or would it be better to turn down her request and wait for another proposal to be suggested by a family member?

Q: I want to know nikaah to your own zania is allowed or not. Actually we committed zina several times and now we are husband wife. Is she halal for me now or not? Also we have one kid.

Q: I have 3 kids(6.3.1). Found out I am 4 weeks pregnant. I live in another country without any family. Husband works 24/7. He is on call all the time, his job is very demanding and doesn't get paid well. We have recently handed in our passports for renewal of our visas and have been told it will be 8+ months before we get an answer and so we cannot travel . We also had to give up our car because we are not allowed to drive until we know our status in the country . So everyday tasks like buying bread and milk, school , doctors have become a nightmare and costly . I am at home with kids and have no access to the outside world . I am isolated . I do all the work with regards to child rearing and running the home . It is extremely demanding physically and mentally. I have no time to take care of myself , pray , eat. I am beginning to resent this life and my husband and the kids . All I do is yell at them and recently have been wanting to physically hit them . When looking for support at the doctors they simply want to prescribe medication to help me cope but I am not keen on it . I have family history on. Other sides of mental health issues and have been working hard to not end up like that . I have asked family for help but the cost of travelling to us and the cost of us having others around is too great . Parents are too old to help . My last child was born early because I was extremely ill during the pregnancy and was very physically active due to all the responsibilities I had to take on. Another factor is if we had to have this child and add them on to our visa we would have to pay +- 25 000 Zar. I simply cannot cope with another child . While typing this I am having an anxiety attack and wish to run away and leave the kids . With my previous 2 pregnancies my husband also was on drugs and became physically and mentally abusove . Is it permissible to have an abortion?

Q: I got my catch hold ceremony in October 2015 but still we didn't do nikah because my in-laws are having some financial problems. What should I do in order to marry quickly?

Q: My question is regarding my nikkah. When I was 16 years old my parents wanted me to get engaged. We agreed on my cousin and they gave their word. Since I live abroad I didn't have much contact with him. When I went to Pakistan, I lived with him and saw no compatibility. I told my mother that I didn't like him anymore. After a while I started talking with another boy with whom I was interested, we planned on getting married after I had finished my studies. Now last year before my nikkah took place we were supposed to leave for Pakistan, my mother asked me if I still liked my cousin on which I answered no, but I also didn't tell her about my relationship with the other boy. I said that I want to study and not get married so soon. We went to Pakistan and there they wanted to get my nikkah done. I had to tell them the truth that I can not marry my cousin because I like someone else. After much emotional blackmailing I agreed and told her ok, but soon I realised my mistake. My heart still didn't agree. I tried speaking to one of my aunts who assured me that this nikkah won't take place since there are only 2 days left and much preparation to do. I believed her and, I got satisfied and said nothing. Now, one day before going back home they brought the Imaam and planned the nikkah. At that time I begged and I asked my aunt to please stop it but she said it was too late if I don't agree now, my dad can divorce my mother and she can also get a heart attack. Being in that much pressure I signed the nikkah with the intention that I will later break it. This was one of my biggest mistakes but I was left with no choice. My question is, is my nikkah valid? Can my parents ask me to break it? I have no intention to stay with my present husband. My parents are asking for the validity of the nikkah.

Q: I am asking this question on behalf of my friend. He is married and got 2 kids. His wife got postnatal depression and he is thinking of marrying his wife's sister so she can lookafter his kid. Is it allowed in Islam to marry one's wife's sister? 

Q: If a wife does zina with someone, does her marriage relationship remain the same with her husband?

Q: I am a 43 year old man. I have 4 kids. I am married for16 years. Last time, while with my wife, by mistake we entered her back side. Would it affect our nikaah? Is there any penalty for this mistake? Please guide me as I am so worried.